During a recent interview for a position at a student organization, I was asked, “If you got stuck on a deserted island what are the three things you would want with you?”
Wanting to be completely honest, I answered, “I would just really want some porn.”
The other two items were a book and Bejeweled if you want to know, but obviously those items are less essential.
I have the porn habits of an adolescent boy. Whenever I have convenient breaks in my schedule, I’ll come home after class, eat a snack, watch some porn, rub one out and go back to campus. During breaks, when I spend weeks back home in Southern California with nothing to do, I’ll hole up in my room and watch videos up to five, six, seven times a day. Porn is also fun to watch recreationally when I’m not trying to get off — the full-length films with real plots and mind-blowing acting are my favorite.
There are many varieties and ways of accessing pornographic videos. There are options to stream, download or torrent videos from countless outlets offering XXX content. There are private companies that require a membership fee for their content, but the quality of expensive premium porn is usually worth it. Most people frequent free porn sites where you can simply stream videos uploaded by other people.
Due to the sheer amount and variety of porn, there should be something for everyone to get off to. The general belief is that porn is mainly for men, but I know lots of ladies who love watching porn as much as I do. After all, one of every three visitors of adult websites is a woman, according to Familysafemedia.com. For those who don’t enjoy straight, mainstream porn, there are sites and companies that specifically produce erotic content for women, queer and LGBT persons.
I previously thought porn only consisted of 15-to-1 gangbangs and German dungeon sex, which is terrifying. But a friend got me into porn one day when I was Skyping with him and he immediately started sending me links to naughty videos he was absolutely positive that I would enjoy.
It turned out I do love watching porn — I just wasn’t watching the right stuff. Aside from the hardcore, patriarchal content, there are great videos that simply feature attractive people having sex. It’s fun to watch sexy people do sexy things in super sexy mansions in San Fernando.
But porn generally has a bad reputation because it’s believed to be a dirty habit that’s reserved only for extreme perverts and boys experiencing puberty. It’s not the guilty pleasure I readily admit to during icebreakers in discussion sections, since people tend to associate pornography with fetishes and sex addiction. Public disapproval of porn also derives from the general stigma against the habit of masturbating.
There are definitely many problematic aspects of porn, with its wide availability on the Internet today. The world of Internet porn is a jungle where one wrong click can lead you to watch the scariest scene of your life. Pornography is largely catered toward men, which in turn eroticizes male dominance. It is an appealing form of sexual education for young people who are unaware that such sexual content may be sexist and unsafe. The tags and categories in porn impose sexual characteristics on specific races, genders and sexual orientations. There’s a lot of misogynistic, violent and disturbing crap out there.
But I doubt all 42.7 percent of Internet users who view porn do so because they endorse sexual violence and misogyny.
There isn’t anything unnatural or anything to be ashamed of in watching porn. If you like having sex, there’s a good chance that you’ll like watching it too. It’s the safest way to experiment with sexual boundaries and a great resource for discovering new things that you didn’t previously find erotic. Porn makes it possible to enjoy and be turned on by sexual novelties without actually engaging in sex.
It’s important to recognize that sex in pornography is not always an accurate depiction of sex in real life. Unless it’s consensual, chicks aren’t pining to be called derogatory names, physically dominated or ejaculated on. Videos tend to skip over the crucial but awkward parts, like putting on a condom or having an actual conversation with the person you’re having sex with about consent. Pornography is essentially just like the movies — but you cannot allow what you see on screen to become what you expect in real-life situations.
Porn can be used in constructive and beneficial ways to enhance your sexuality and lifestyle overall, and it also allows for the possibility of sexual activity and satisfaction during times of solitude. It’s convenient to get off whenever and for however long I want to without setting time aside or having to cater to someone else’s needs. However, procras-turbation does get to be a real problem sometimes, because looking at naked people is exponentially more fun to do than most of my other daily tasks and obligations.
So if you’ve ever felt like a fiend for jerking off in front of your computer too often, don’t worry: You’re definitely not the only one. Anyone who tells me that porn is a nasty habit has obviously never seen an X-Art video.
Contact Nadia Cho at [email protected].
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Someday your grandchildren will be researching their family history and find this article about their grandma talking about flicking her clit to interracial gangbang porn.
I find this article easy to masturbate to. Well, the article, not the broad who wrote it.
For many years at least since the 70′s, I’m dating myself here, we were taught generally that women do not enjoy sex, or at least not as much as men. This article proves this theory wrong at least for one gal. That positive mark aside, I can’t imagine her parents reaction to this. Today’s kids are treated by their parents as “best buddies” which leaves to a kid with no discipline and thus unprepared for the real world. I wouldn’t be upset if my daughter was gay or bisexual, as long as she was happy, (though I don’t see positive relationships in the future unless she finally chooses to come out), but pictures of her smoking pot, as far as I know is still illegal in California minus a Dr.’s note, won’t help her career choices. Such a waste especially when there are kids lining up to get into college.
Let’s hope it doesn’t go from pot, then cocaine, then something much worse like “smiles” the drug that will have her banging her head against the wall till she kills herself, already killing lots of kids some of which have been drugged by their parents with false diseases like ADHD. It’s an employers world out there, my advice to her is she’ll now need to learn to create a job on her own, perhaps a small business, and stay away from peer pressure, aka smoking pot to be “cool”. Then again I doubt she’s listening to anyone at this point.
Thanks for writing this! I will often rub one out just to end the night or break up the studying monotony. So glad I’m not the only one. : )
“It’s fun to watch sexy people do sexy things in super sexy mansions in San Fernando.” The fact that statements like this, in whatever context, by whomever, can make it into newspaper of the University of California Berkeley is disappointing.
Honestly, I can’t imagine how “I heart porn!” would be the first thing I’d choose to share about myself in a group discussion situation. I hope Nadia is at least self-aware enough to understand why it is that she gets all the male attention after giving out this kind of information (and to be sure, that may be precisely the point).
Oversharing, TMI, call it what you will–it’s the curse of the modern world. Go see a priest if you want to confess, for fuck’s sake. The world at large neither needs nor wants to know.
Please post some nude pictures Nadia, so your male readers can wack it.
Ching Chong…means I love u. Ling long..I really do want u. Ting tong…I’m gonna fap to you now
Lol you must be so happy Nadia about what happened today.
“Berkeley lawmakers recognize Bisexual Pride Day”
http://www.google.com/hostednews/ap/article/ALeqM5iVNuZHHan96hU7tHot4QW1_7T_3g?docId=67d7e6b0808c4592bf5e22b3135a8bb0
BERKELEY,
Calif. (AP) — Berkeley on Tuesday became what is thought to
be the nation’s first city to officially proclaim a day recognizing
bisexuals, a sexual minority that often complains of being derided as
sexually confused fence-sitters.
The City Council unanimously and
without discussion declared Sept. 23 as Bisexual Pride and Bi Visibility
Day. Since 1999, bisexual activists have claimed the date to celebrate
their community, and bisexual pride events routinely are held in Los
Angeles, Boston, Chicago and other cities across the nation.
Berkeley,
however, is believed to be the first U.S. city where a government body
has taken the extra step of to formally acknowledge the day, the San
Francisco Chronicle reported (http://bit.ly/S4L00p ). Other cities
support and participate in gay pride parades held in June and July.
Councilman
Kriss Worthington introduced the resolution, telling his colleagues
ahead of Tuesday night’s meeting that it was important for the city to
support an occasion “conceived as a response to the prejudice and
marginalization of the bisexual persons by some in both the straight and
greater LGBT communities.”
“Increasing bisexual visibility is a
way of saying, yes, they do exist, and they deserve our support and
acceptance,” Worthington said.
“Bisexual Pride Day”? Seriously?
May as well call it “Human Being Pride Day”.
Why do so many asian girls like nerdy guys with small cocks?
Are you tired of all the Asian women hitting on you?
How many times did you stop to masturbate while writing this article?
During a recent interview for a position at a student organization, I
was asked, “If you got stuck on a deserted island what are the three
things you would want with you?”
Wanting to be completely honest, I answered, “I would just really want some porn.”
I’d hire you. twice!
is that all the meaning you get from life? porn and school. so shallow and useless.
There’s a ladder over there by the wall if you want to get off your high horse. (No pun intended)
“Whenever I have convenient breaks in my schedule, I’ll come home after class, eat a snack, watch some porn, rub one out and go back to campus.” THIS IS MY LIFE. I am also an asn am girl, and I applaud you for writing this. Thank you, Nadia.
Dope, thoughtful analysis yet again.
Translation : “I am titillated.”
Honestly this was a really good article. Really got the point across, especially mentioning that porn is very similar to movies; it doesn’t depict reality, but people still watch it.
Have fun finding a real job when your employers google your name. Have fun working at McDonald’s for the rest of your life. Your Asian parents must be so proud of you. NOT. Some things are meant to be kept quiet, and this topic is definitely one of them. You must think you are doing everyone a favor about being open about this stuff in a college newspaper and liberal university, but in reality, you are a lowlife, attention-seeking, stupid, poor, girl. I feel sorry for you and your parents. What you do is not mine or anyone’s business, but when you waste your parents’ tuition on stupid acts such as this that jeopordize your future job prospects, you have really screwed yourself over. I just had to say what I said because I hope you know everyone thinks you are just a horny, attention-deprived, confused little girl. I bet you love all the attention you have been getting by working at FSM too. I wouldn’t be surprised if you got so desparate for money later on that you become a porn star. I bet ur parents dont even know their daughter is writing this stuff
1. seems like this is a personal attack on nadia and isn’t actually related to her column. nobody cares about your dramatic little self, go write in your diary or something
2. you REALLY thing nadia’s going to lose all her job prospects because she authored a sexually charged column in college? you DO realize most successful people (aka future employers) have experienced college and know what it’s like, right? unless she plans to work for mitt romney she’s going to be just fine
3. ”
I feel sorry for you and your parents” i feel sorry for you. i would much rather be in the company of someone as bold as nadia than someone as judgmental and aggressive as you. good luck with YOUR job prospects
4. ”
I hope you know everyone thinks you are just a horny, attention-deprived, confused little girl… I wouldn’t be surprised if you got so desparate for money later on that you become a porn star.” um i don’t know where you pulled this shit from, but there’s zero chance that everyone agrees with you. you’re irrational, dramatic, shallow, and just idiotic in general. i’m actually embarrassed to go to the same university as someone with your mindset. so please, next time save your energy and write your bullshit in your diary where nobody else has to read it (and where it can’t make our school look bad)
^^^Virgin^^^
Sorry, but it sounds like you’re the virgin here. Grown adults don’t need to make public announcements such as this, which come across as “Heehehehe, I’m having SEX, everyone!”. Not everyone in the world needs to know your personal business. There is value in discretion.
Go fuck yourself.
Frankly, I have to agree with the job prospect thing. Maybe it won’t limit Nadia from getting a job, but it could affect what kind of job and where. I’m sure lots of employers would read this article and be made uncomfortable. Not to say some wouldn’t. Just… many might.
I personally don’t approve of the Sex on Tuesdays column. It’s funny, it’s kind of cute, but it’s… cheap.
Interviewing candidates for the Sex on Tuesday job must be the best part of working for the Daily Cal.
The excellent writing of Ms Cho’s article is substantially reduced without more pictures of the subject.
Well here’s another pic from her Twitter:
https://twimg0-a.akamaihd.net/profile_images/2621775627/12bu6q0gmeh69aci3fx3.jpeg
Twitter: https://twitter.com/nadiiacho
Can’t say i feel turned on though. It makes her look like a Lolita …
Having delivered pizza in Berkeley for seven years, I already considered UCB students to be a collection of complete jerk-offs. I never imagined it would be documented.
If the best job you can find after 7 years is still as a pizza delivery guy, then we all know how you spend those lonely nights in your parents’ basement, fantasizing about girls who are way out of your league.
Ooooo. Diss.
Best line on this page!!!!
Funny article. But, you will get tired of it at some point. I used to be a porn fueled masturbator, too. But the stuff gets old after a while. These days I can watch for about a half hour, then I’m looking forward to something else – like a pizza or baseball game. Maybe I just have low testosterone.
Slow clap…
Great article! Its nice to hear from a woman that most porn isn’t terrible. So many woman find it repellent and disgusting, and get angry at men that watch it. Even if they aren’t a couple. Thanks!
One word: crashpad. Put that in your ass and love it :)
Wow! Please marry me!
I think Nadia is more into girls these days
Good call on X-art :)
Must be Margarete’s little sister.
Yes, because every person named Cho is related.
You do understand this post will follow you around for the rest of your life.
Somebody’s little girl is starved for attention…
Oh, it’s you again! I think it’s really interesting that every post of
yours that I’ve ever read has had an undercurrent of misogyny. Woman
writes an article you don’t like? She must have not gotten enough
attention from her dad! Actually, it’s a little disturbing that you
posted no less than four (yes, four) comments on the last article, at
least one of which had essentially the same content:
Stan De San Diego
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8 days ago
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Mom
and Dad must be so proud. Ever think of keeping your sexual experiences
to yourself, and not sharing them with the rest of the world?
Now that I think about it, you’re right. Nadia just needs to be taught
that girls should be ashamed of their sexuality. Then maybe you can
write for a newspaper and she can write bitter, irrelevant, unpopular
comments on your articles.
But see, when guys talk about their sex lives, we discourage their behavior. It’s sexism just the same to promote sexuality in women. At least in a newspaper where Sex on Tuesdays is always women… it screams “exploitation.”
“Oh, it’s you again! I think it’s really interesting that every post of
yours that I’ve ever read has had an undercurrent of misogyny.”
Why, because I dare disagree with you?
So … your point is, what? Convincing the 57.3% of internet users (likely none of whom are your readers) that porn is good (wow, stop the presses)? That porn doesn’t represent reality (gee whiz, *really*)? That women are (gasp) sexual beings (who woulda thunk it)?
Or, perhaps, the point is just as a tawdry ploy by the newspaper to get viewership. Yeah, I’m going with *that* one. You want to have a column about sex and mores? Super, but give it a purpose *other* than (minor) titillation. Sure this is an independent rag not associated with the University nor does it have delusions of ever becoming the New York Times but, as an alumnus, it is rather embarrassing all the same. Have some class, DC because you’re better than this. Were this the 70′s with no other access to masturbatory literature, this *might* be considered a service to your audience. Today? Not so much.
Lighten up, lol.
“The world of Internet porn is a jungle where one wrong click can lead you to watch the scariest scene of your life.”
Yea, like ball-busting and BDSM. It used to be scary for me but now I get off to it.
For those interested, here’s the article about ball-busting from the man of my dreams Dan Savage that got me hooked onto ball-busting:
http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=13526795
I am a straight 29-year-old guy
and I’ve been into ball busting—having my balls kicked and
stomped—since I was 14. The fucked-up thing is, I only enjoy getting my
balls busted by other guys. I’ve been hit in the balls by girls, and it
doesn’t do anything for me. I thought I might be bisexual, since I want
guys to kick me in the balls, but I don’t get turned on by the idea of
sucking cock or getting fucked by a guy. Only ball busting with a guy
turns me on.
I’ve tried getting busted by girls, watching
videos of girls kicking men in the balls, etc., but I never even get
hard from it. Sometimes I can see a good-looking guy on the street and
I’ll get hard just thinking about his feet kicking my balls. In fact,
while sitting here writing this question to you, I’m hard because you’re
a good-looking guy and I’d love to have you kick my balls.
“Whenever I have convenient breaks in my schedule, I’ll come home after
class, eat a snack, watch some porn, rub one out and go back to campus.”
Can I visit? I’d like to watch.