Fucking white boys

Melting into the pot

Maggie Lam_Online

It was about 2 a.m. when Sam and I walked down the empty hallway, passing by the painted murals and the bedrooms of my snoring housemates.

We had been eye fucking each other all night, and the sexual tension had built to a point where neither of us could contain our cheeky smiles.

As we turned the corner, we met face to face. Already knowing the answer, I put my arms around his neck and bluntly asked, “Could I kiss you?”

What happened next was an instant exchange of sexual desire without a thought, our lips and pelvises pressed up against each other as we made out against the thin co-op walls.

I led the way to my bedroom as we quietly snuck past the room he was supposed to be staying in, past the housemate he was supposed to be fucking. Was it luck that she had conveniently left him alone for a couple hours, or had I really mastered the art of seduction?

It didn’t matter because on my flowery bedspread, under the twinkly string lights, it was a race to get naked. I untied my white blouse as he helped unbutton it. We pulled off his sweater, and as I sat on top of him, feeling his stiff, denim jeans, I relished in the success of my sexual pursuit. It wasn’t until I began to unbuckle his belt that I noticed the hesitancy in his big blue eyes.

“I feel bad,” he said.

He revealed to me that he had been hooking up with my housemate, and while they hadn’t talked about labels, he supposedly didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

Exasperated by his timing, I removed myself from his lap, taking a moment to formulate my response.

Several weeks before, I confronted my housemate after I found out that we had both slept with Sam. In our rather casual conversation, we marveled at how his fuckboy reputation didn’t seem to match his quiet, passive demeanor. Although we were both warned by our friends that he had a history of being shitty to girls, we were, after all, cooperative and sex-positive housemates. We encouraged the other person to “go for it” — even though I knew her “quirky” Wes Anderson aesthetic meant she was more likely seen as girlfriend material.

Obviously, I knew about everything, so I was a little confused as to why he was telling me all of this; was it my responsibility to stop him from hurting my housemate?

I decided that it wasn’t, and I simply told him, “I really don’t fucking care.” I’ve seen my fair share of assholes, and if he was going to be a fuckboy, I wasn’t going to be the one to comfort his guilt.

Maybe this turned him on because despite his earlier hesitation, we promptly continued hooking up. My fixation with pleasing him turned into this endless cycle where Sam would stop and tell me that he “felt bad” even though we would continue to touch each other anyway.

I eventually grew bored of dry humping, and as I became increasingly aware of his faulty understanding of loyalty and his blue balls the whole situation became kind of humorous to me. I cynically told him that I didn’t know he had feelings, to which he responded he was trying to have fewer of them. I told him he had such a great moral conscience.

I didn’t waste my time trying to be nice anymore because I was aware of what I had become: the irrelevant Asian girl in a budding Scott Pilgrim-esque romance. From the countless times that I’ve been rejected for a white girl, I’ve been taught that my desirability was only a fleeting moment whereas a white girl was the one worth getting to know, the one worth bringing home to parents and the one worth being treated as a human. I was the sexual object, whereas my housemate was the one who had feelings worth considering.

Eventually, I showed Sam out the door, and he asked for my number, suggesting that maybe we could “hang out” next semester when our lives were a little bit different.

Fuck that. I’m wise enough or have been fooled enough times to recognize that this “maybe one day” trope was a fuckboy specialty. To objectify women like they’re library books, pulling them on and off the shelf whenever it’s convenient and for women to be OK with that is a clear example of male privilege.

It’s depressing to realize how much women of color compromise in their relationships with white men. I recall the number of times that my non-white girlfriends and I have praised a white guy for having listened to us, for having genuine interest in us, for seeing us as a real people instead of objects. It’s fucked up that these are exceptions and not expectations.

When society has made the white person the ultimate pursuit, it teaches non-white women to be OK with feeling inferior, to be OK with being submissive and to be OK with being treated like shit.

Until white boys prove to me they’re worth more than a faded fuck, I refuse to take these fuckboys seriously anymore.

Maggie Lam writes about reclaiming the Asian-American narrative surrounding the immigrant experience.

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  • Chuck

    “Doesn’t understand the concept of racism because as a white man he has never experienced it.”

    White men don’t experience racism? As a white man who has experienced racism, I’m wondering where you get this idea?

    I find the whole you can’t be racist against white people to be a very convenient cover for those who are racist against white people.

  • Chuck

    You want rape culture?

    Woman rapes a 13 year old boy, and shoots him in the back while he’s sleeping… punishment?

    Well, probation of course (this is actual rape and attempted murder… just FYI).

    Result? She murdered her husband.

    Latosha Starks-Twilley

    Look it up.

  • virtualmatrix

    Forwarded this to the Berkeley Police Department. Openly admitting rape? Dumb move.

  • disqus_bM0OAnp4Ya

    What the actual fuck did I just read
    Get off your high horse, examine your tremendous arrogance, and consider the possibility that not everything in life revolves around race

  • Don’t try to reason with a rapist like Maggie.

    She’s an admitted rapist and should be expelled and prosecuted.

    • IanC

      But sadly she won’t because she’s female! Men have to do as they are told, and women do as they like, and ANYTHING they do do that is questionable, even by them, is blamed on men in some way, or the patriarchy! – though it’s a figment of their imagination in gynocracy we have; this matriarchy, if you will.

  • cfishy

    This article should come with a trigger warning: sexual violence. She needs to be on sex offender registry for life.

  • cfishy

    Because rape is hate fucking.

  • cfishy

    Maybe it’s because you have the same personality with this author? Because many Latinos are white.

  • cfishy

    You totally need to go out with Maggie. Best of luck,

    • Jeff Lubensky

      Ha! she’s a total keeper…

  • Zincoshine

    You are absolutely sick in the head. I’m not going to discuss the fact that this was sexual assault because everyone else here has already done that. No, instead I am going to discuss the fact that you have absolutely ZERO respect for yourself and you are ruining your life. You have no idea how valuable your Asian attributes are if only you would stop belittling them. White women are garbage, their “culture” is garbage. Instead of trying to discover your unique advantages as an asian you have tried to make yourself comparable to white women, thus eliminating all your advantages and making you an inferior choice both sexually and romantically. He didn’t fetishize you, he didn’t objectify you, YOU DID THAT TO YOURSELF.

    Go and befriend some fresh of the boat Chinese women, let them help you rediscover your Asian heritage. When you do, you won’t just have men wanting you for serious relationships, they’ll be begging to marry you. For now thought, you’re a sexual predator and a victim of your own inferiority complex. I hope you can redeem yourself before you end up in jail.

    • cfishy

      Agreed. This article reeks of low self esteem. Unfortunately, that’s harder to fix than simply meeting some people.

      • Leon Miller

        Hardly. It actually reeks of unwarranted high esteem.

    • noon45

      “White women are garbage”

      Never underestimate just how backwards East Asians can be. You’ll rarely see this level of bigotry and ingratitude amongst other groups.

      • Zincoshine

        I’m white actually. It ain’t bigotry to point out what third wave feminism has done to white women. All whites have going for them at this point is the strange physical attraction that most white men have for them ovey other races. There are the religious who are still good but their obsession with God just kills the attraction.

        • noon45

          It mightn’t be bigoted to decry third wave feminism but describing a people as ‘garbage’ most certainly is.

          There is no group of women who have contributed more to humanity than white women. Ungrateful third-worlders like Maggie Lam enjoy a standard of living vastly superior to anything her own people could provide, in large part, because of the efforts of white women.

          It is not ‘strange’ to find them attractive and I suspect you have ulterior motives for resenting them.

          • lspanker

            It mightn’t be bigoted to decry third wave feminism but describing a people as ‘garbage’ most certainly is.

            A fair assessment.

          • Guy Tintintininbaum

            You can’t call the comment bigoted and then proceed to xall asians ungrateful third worlders. That is like literal hypocrisy.

          • lspanker

            You can’t call the comment bigoted and then proceed to xall asians ungrateful third worlders.

            He certainly didn’t describe all Asians that way, just Maggie and her ilk.

          • Guy Tintintininbaum

            I’m just saying we should avoid the Merry-Go-Round the racist accusations at the same time being racist to each other. It’s like the ultimate type of hypocrisy

          • noon45

            “That is like literal hypocrisy.”

            Only if you’re a simpleton.

            I didn’t call ALL Asians anything. If I’d referred to her as ‘subhuman’ or ‘garbage’ because of her race, you might have a point.

          • Guy Tintintininbaum

            You can call me a simpleton but you have already called asians third-worlders. I think you are experiencing a little cognitive dissonance.

          • noon45

            Most Asians are third-worlders.

            “cognitive dissonance”

            Another term you don’t understand. Simpleton.

          • Guy Tintintininbaum

            Good one. The person slinging insults forfeits the argument through inability to reply.

          • noon45

            You wish it was that simple…ton

          • lspanker

            The two of you need to step back a bit and reconsider what the other said. You’re not that diametrically opposed in thought, just projecting a bit about each other.

        • airmanjoe

          I used to think that most white women weren’t worth it, but then I realized that most people in general just aren’t compatible with one another. The exception is the relationship that works out.

  • Ganesh

    Two takeaways from this:

    1) It’s important to remember that white people are not the only racists in America; in fact, as a group, whites are probably among the least racist of most groups. Look at the searing, hate filled racism that oozes through her words here.

    2) It’s even more important to remember that ‘Privilege’ is hardly a simple, one way thing. Everybody has different types of privilege in different ways; and this author here is among the most privileged of all Americans, far more privileged in sum than the white males she scorns. Not just the fact that Asians are far more economically privileged than whites (with a far high average household income), but…

    Imagine a white male writing this. About an asian female, or any female for that matter. Flippantly describing a sexual assault, heaping racial and gendered abuse on his target. Publishing it under his own name. Of course, it never would be published, but he is very lucky for that – his life would be ruined if it was, his long term economic prospects permanently hampered.

    The ability to freely speak her mind without fear of repercussion is one of the many privileges that Ms. Lam enjoys but is surely unaware of.

    • chrisredfield31

      Least racist? White nationalists hello? The most far racist group in America bar none? You’re right that white people aren’t the only racists, however the way that white racist people enact their racism is the worst in the country, if not the world. If only you knew what really boils beneath the surface….

      • Dan Spitzer

        When it comes to bigotry today, African Americans may be the prizewinners. The reputable ADL poll shows that roughly one out of three black Americans holds anti-Semitic perspectives.

        That’s some thanks Jews get for being the leading white standard bearers in the civil rights movement…

        • chrisredfield31

          African Americans are bad too. They think that being the “top oppressed” gives them the right to do the same to other people. They are actually afforded a lot of privilege they conveniently ignore.

          • lspanker

            There’s especially a lot of bad blood between blacks and Koreans in LA for a number of reasons, including the Rodney King riots. I have a couple of black friends who are acutely aware of that, so they have made efforts to educate their children and explain that such hostility as in vogue in their community will not get them ahead in life. Sorry to say, but no pun intended, they are a minority within a minority…

        • FASHMASTER

          Hating Jews is one of the few respectable qualities of blacks.

      • airmanjoe

        What exactly are you trying to base this off of? History or modernity?

        • lspanker

          He’s probably basing it off what he has been force-fed in his racial/ethnic/gender victim/grievance studies class…

      • lspanker

        You’re right that white people aren’t the only racists, however the way that white racist people enact their racism is the worst in the country, if not the world.

        You wouldn’t be making such a silly claim if you ever spent time outside sheltered little liberal enclaves such as Berkeley.

        • chrisredfield31

          I live in a Republican state with an extreme small minority of Asians. Try again.

          • lspanker

            Even with my disagreements with mainstream Republicans, I find them to be far less racist than left-wing liberals, most likely because more of them join the Armed Forces and travel the world, as opposed to spending their existence in cloistered little college towns where anyone not conforming to their PC group-think is shunned. After spending six years in the Air Force and traveling extensively through Asia and the Middle East, I seemed to be more comfortable working with foreign students at Cal than many of my liberal peers…

          • chrisredfield31

            I hate living here. I hate how whites (who are mostly rep.) race-mix with blacks and latinos but exclude Asian. I hate that Asian women exclude Asian men. I hate being treated like crap just for living my life and paying for services/items like everyone else. You say they’re not racist, I think they are plenty racist and libs don’t get a free pass either. They’re racist and offensive in their own way.

          • Hell’s Kitchen

            Too bad you can’t just pack up and leave… If only there were countries or colleges that were majority Asian you wouldn’t have to suffer so. Truly unfair.

          • chrisredfield31

            It’s too bad isn’t it? It’s difficult getting a visa (to stay in, not just to visit or study in). I can see why it’s so strict but unfortunately it locks our own people out as well.

          • Joggerboy18

            I heard Irvine’s nice this time of year!

          • Dan Spitzer

            Well, these days the worst bigotry on the planet is manifest by Muslims. See most recently the butchery in Orlando, Istanbul, the killing of the 13 year old girl and father of ten in Israel simply because they were Jewish, and as I type this, the latest exercise in Islamofascism being exhibited in Bangladesh…

      • Kirk Ernaga

        How many white nationalist do you think are out there? The KK are lucky if they could get 10 people at an event. I would if I had to guess, your probably lucky if you have total million of white supremacists out of theb 160 million non whites in the US

      • Eric Pederson

        BLM is currently the most racist group in America, most divisive and most destructive.

        • chrisredfield31

          BLM is pretty bad, but I only rank them in #2 because they’re mainly militant and dumb. WN’s are all the way out there.

          • moremane

            LOL. You say “WN” as if it’s some monolithic coalition. You try moving 1/3rd of the population of the United States into Mexico over the course of 30 years and see how the Mexicans like it. OMG THE WHITE PEOPLE ARE RACISTS. No. It’s called frustration from being taken advantage of.

          • Leon Miller

            It’s almost as if “diversity” causes “racism.” Or something…

      • Malik Mohammed

        How are white nationalists anymore racist than black nationalists or Latino nationalists? The latter groups are more relevant because their bigotry is not confronted by society like white bigotry is. No mainstream institution is going to promote white nationalism. If anything the goal in politics, education, business, and entertainment is to diversify what is deemed “too white.” But nonwhite groups like BLM, La Raza, MEChA, Black Panthers, Nation of Islam, Congressional Black/Hispanic Caucus, United Negro College Fund, etc face little resistance to their ethnic-based organizations and policies.

        Saying white racism is the worst in the world only reveals your ignorance of global cultures. Nowhere are racial/ethnic/religious minorities treated better than in the West. Most nonwhites seek to settle in white majority Western countries because they know they are better off in them. They aren’t looking to live, study, and work in the West so they can be 2nd class citizens to the white oppressors lol. They come here because they know white countries will provide them with a better standard of living than that of even their own countries. Then once in these white countries many of them want to settle in white neighborhoods and send their kids to white schools. Again, because they know among whites they have it relatively good.

        • chrisredfield31

          What’s up with your name? Why are you shilling for them?

          • lspanker

            Maybe he’s posting a sincere, well thought out opinion…

      • moremane

        If whites are so racist then why are all of their countries multiracial? Yet Japan is 98% Japanese, and China much the same. Whites are just giving their countries away to people that end up calling them racists everywhere they go. Imagine being told you’re a racist every day of your life just for being alive.

        • chrisredfield31

          Because these countries were taken from someone moron.

          • lspanker

            If whites are so racist why do millions of “people of color” want to emigrate to places like the US, Canada, the UK, Australia and New Zealand?

          • Leon Miller

            So Whites aren’t the indigenous people of Europe? Try again…

        • chrisredfield31

          Imagine actually being on the blunt end of a racist. Oh wait you can’t because you’re white.

          • HeloJoe989

            LOL, you literally just proved his point, and disproved your own!

            “..because you’re white.”

            What an incredibly racist thing to say, and too a white person

      • BlueSonicStreak

        Hey, “Daily Cal,” any particular reason why my earlier reply to this guy (which contains no profanity) has been “pending” for 8 hours now?

        • lspanker

          Did it contain the word “s-e-x” or any derivative of it? For some reason the flagging algorithm will occasionally decide that’s a bad word, for some unknown reason.

          • BlueSonicStreak

            Good to know. Thanks much.

    • Queen Bee

      You do understand there is such a thing as systemic racism, for which white people are largely responsible for. Sure. Every race has racists and holds certain prejudices. It’s just that other races don’t hold nearly the amount of positions of power in this country or in the Western world in general.

      This is why everyone should be required to take an ethnic studies course/women’s studies course. Shakin’ my GODDAHM head.

      • Ganesh

        And yet Asians and Indians have way higher average incomes in America than whites do. Herp derp. If there’s any group in America that holds both massive privilege of various kinds as well as high income and massive political and institutional power, it’s Jews. The political system in America sh*ts on white people.

        Here’s the thing. We already know all the nonsense and post-marxist indoctrination that get shoved into peoples heads in these classes. I used to be a card carrying socialist, proudly waving around my bell hooks and Chomsky and railing about the evils of patriarchy and white supremacism. But, I’ve come to think more broadly that the narrow confines those classes teach, and have come to see the come foundational tenets of ‘progressive liberalism’ as both empirically unfounded and civilizationally destructive. So, yeah, I don’t think the taxpayers of the country should be forced to pay for all the youth to learn how evil western civilisation is and how to work to tear it down, the 2500 year old civilisation remember that, while certainly not perfect, has provided the highest standard of human rights and highest potential for human development of any in world history*, the civilization that took unqiue effort to bring the 10,000 year old practice of human slavery mostly to an end globally. I really do think there are more productive things youth could be learning, such as, you know, mathematics and chemistry and computer programming and such. Or why Western civilization is so amazing and deserves to be protected and preserved, and what the most effective action towards this end is…

        * If you can name any other that has provided a higher standard of human rights and potential for human flourishing, let me know.

        • Dan Spitzer

          Ah, yes. The unmitigated appearance of the neo-Nazi is seen as is not surprising in any discussion on this site when it comes to racism. Usually in the DC this screed comes in the guise of Islamofascism. But you appear to simply be the standard Aryan supremacist. I suspect you are part of Trump’s minion.

          No, Ganesh, it’s racist scumbags like you who shit on people. And judging from your first paragraph, you yourself deserve to eat excreta…

          • Anon

            Your hatred of whites will have consequences.

          • FASHMASTER

            Ah, yes. The unmitigated appearance of the Jew. Member of a tribe whose people do blood tests for racial purity in Israel lecturing white people on being racist. I suspect you are snacking on foreskins at the moment.

        • Leon Miller

          “If there’s any group in America that holds both massive privilege of
          various kinds as well as high income and massive political and
          institutional power, it’s Jews.”

          Uh-oh. “Jewish privilege?” Not a thing. Because reasons.

      • Leon Miller

        Kek. “systemic racism,” or “institutional racism.” Otherwise known as “the luminiferous ether of the 21st century.” Can’t be directly observed or measured, but you are obligated to accept its existence on faith, otherwise the whole shaky edifice that is postmodernism/ intersectionality will collapse.

  • oceanmachine

    “Please keep our community civil.” Oh, that’s rich.

  • oceanmachine

    You complain about being treated like an object (because the guys you want to sleep with don’t reciprocate your feelings?? Guess what, you’re not entitled to their bodies just as they are not entitled to yours) and yet boast about treating this guy like an object. “Exasperated by his timing…” Oh, yes, it’s such a tragedy that everyone doesn’t cater to your wants and needs at every second. Get a grip.

  • Yeah, this is sexual assault. I urge anyone reading this to report her to her school.

    • dikfor

      Not just sexual assault but actual rape. Or like Whoopi Goldberg would say; ‘rape-rape.’

    • Jeff Beresford

      Done. Please, everyone do the same. She shouldn’t get away with this. It’s sickening.

  • The Boss

    To discover that I was passed over and rejected from writing for the Daily Cal in favor of this girl…

    Okay, so let me write you an article in response to this, one that contains logical thought and is actually worth reading:
    You were never “rejected for the white girl” in this situation because both you and your roommate were both temporary sex partners and nothing more. Your partner never had a deeper relationship with your housemate compared to you so the comparison is mute. In this article, you compare your supposed “objectification” to a library bookshelf, yet you seem to forget that it takes two to tango, and clearly, you were more than willing to be one of his library books. You are using your sex partner as much as he is using you, and you yourself have your own “bookshelf” no doubt, but it seems to be only his fault because he’s a man and a “fuckboy.” It’s comical how you claim that he is demeaning you when you continuously demean him throughout the article, claiming that he is nothing more than a one-night stand. In the next paragraph, you complain about not being listened to, but maybe if you tried having relationships instead of treating men as objects for your one-night stands, you might actually feel like the “real person” that you so yearn to be treated as. Then you complain about white people being the ultimate pursuit, but did you forget that you yourself are pursuing a white man? What are you complaining about? At no point in your encounter did your partner ever “treat you like shit.” If anything, you treated him like shit. Ironically, in your long-winded attempt to discredit your sex partner and paint him as the asshole, it turns out that the only asshole here is you, dear writer.

  • omgwtfbbqhax1

    “I’ve been treated like shit by white men, and I know a lot of white men see minority women as inferior to white women”

    And yet you still go chasing after white men.

    • Hendrik Vanderstijn

      It’s almost as of either she has low self esteem and goes after white men because she perceives them to be at the bottom of the attraction pile, or despite that, she thinks that white men are better. Neither is particularly progressive.

      • cfishy

        Let me put it this way. How many white boy / Asian girl pairs have you seen? Now, how many Asian boy / white girl pairs have you seen? Numbers don’t lie.

        • Gene Kim

          Girls from Asia are awesome, Asian-American girls are horrible.

          • Filbert Almond

            America does weird things to girls. Teaching spoiled rich women they are ‘oppressed’ and deserve to ‘get even’ does horrible things to a persons mind.

        • The Asian guys obviously have higher standards, that’s all.

          • lspanker

            The Asian guys obviously have higher standards, that’s all.

            Dunno if that’s true or not, but Maggie would certainly make an argument for it.

    • kingkwon

      “When society has made the white person the ultimate pursuit, it teaches non-white women to be OK with feeling inferior, to be OK with being submissive and to be OK with being treated like shit.”

      That answers your question

      • Malik Mohammed

        But society hasn’t made the white person the ultimate pursuit. If that were the case then why aren’t black women lusting after white guys? They are far more assimilated into American society than Asian girls. Indian girls and Muslim girls also tend to stick to their own kind.

        It’s Asian and Hispanic girls who date white guys in large numbers. Maggie is one of them. There’s nothing wrong with that. But clearly the racist SJW culture to which she belongs looks down on it. So instead of admitting she just happens to be attracted to white guys, she blames society for brainwashing her. It’s a coping mechanism for the guilt she feels in seeking out another race. She cannot owe it all due to her own agency because then she feels like a sellout. So she places responsibility somewhere else.

        Then she criticizes the white guy for not desiring her the way she desired him. She projects that this white guy finds her inferior when really the guy is probably just as insecure as her, and didn’t want to make things complicated between himself, Maggie, and the housemate.

        • lspanker

          She projects that this white guy finds her inferior when really the guy
          is probably just as insecure as her, and didn’t want to make things
          complicated between himself, Maggie, and the housemate.

          Or maybe he just had better discretion and common sense…

    • Leon Miller

      Hmm… what are the chances that “mlee” treats Asian men “like shit?”

    • mlee

      Why do I have to go chasing after white men? Why can’t he be the one who chased me?

    • No self-respecting WOC would actively pursue a white man. It’s something you fall into, and hopefully fall out of, in a similar fashion.

  • Crablezworth

    This turned into projection real fast

  • Ryan Lee

    I actually really liked the article! I think its really cool how Maggie was able to be very honest and open about her feelings and experiences, and she did bring up many valid points. Regardless of how you liked the article, it is unfair to make judgements about Maggie as a person and comment mean things, especially because she is voicing her opinion – hence its inclusion in the Opinion section.
    And I don’t think that she sexually assaulted Sam, and Sam shouldn’t feel sexually assaulted either. I think many of you are blowing a misunderstanding out of proportion and out of context. Sexual assault is a really harsh phrase that shouldn’t be thrown around.

    • “Regardless of how you liked the article, it is unfair to make judgements about Maggie as a person and comment mean things, ”
      She admitted to rape and then she spins it as racism against her. That’s not judgment, that’s just acknowledging the facts.

      • Ryan Lee

        No where in the piece does she say “I raped Sam”, and Sam’s preference for her white roommate, while not explicit racism, alludes to a common theme of a perceived ‘inferiority’ of Asian Americans by non-Asians.

        Perhaps this was not the best example of that kind of racism in play, but regardless: Maggie did not rape Sam and told a story that was of great personal value to her, and she does touch upon an important issue in the discussion of racism that doesn’t really get talked about in mainstream American media.

  • TMoney

    This girl is a rapist.

  • exposing_hypocrits

    You’re a racist, sexist and borderline rapist.

    • No borderline about her being a rapist – she admitted to all that in her own words. but now that you mention it she may very well be Borderline. This has that symptomatic want you/hate you dynamic.

  • Anon

    You sound like an abuser. I genuinely feel sorry for you – and I hope you eventually fix your issues, instead of blaming them on racism or objectification.

  • I’m confused. How did this article make it on the Daily Cal…

    • lspanker

      You didn’t get the word? June was Blame White Folks for All Your Problems Month at the Daily Cal.

  • Dustin Lapish

    Also, you are a rapist. I’ll be sending this and a complaint to your school. Pack your bags, zippo, you’re out of there.

    • Hendrik Vanderstijn

      I’m sure these rules will be as evenly applied to women as men, which is incidently also why nobody thought this article shouldn’t be published.

      Men and women are to be treated equally, with women more equally than men.

  • Dustin Lapish

    From the vibe I get from your article, I’m pretty sure he treated you less like wife material and more like a worthless, selfish, cold prostitute, not because you’re a zipperhead, but because you were acting like a worthless, selfish, cold prostitute.

    I know, I know, accepting that would mean you’d have to change your horrible personality and give up your beloved “victim” status….and who’s got time for that, amirite?

    So, go back to being a spermdump, eventually leaving you riddled with hpv and barren. By the time you realize feminism is BS you’ll be old, bitter and no one will want you. You’re already 90% there.

  • EmailsTextsCalla

    Rape culture is a delusion.

    • ThothMRM

      Rape culture does exist, in prison where the term came from, and was later appropriated by feminists then diluted to meaninglessness.

  • you must think you’re a special snowflake

  • Wilson MacGregor

    i can post opinion columns to the daily californian just by having a disqus account?

  • MaryRunaround

    Dude is lucky he sensed trouble and scooted before he got in too deep,,,

  • xjitfire

    At least you aren’t an ugly 5’4 Indian dude who’s 20 years old and still a virgin. At least you have someone that thinks you’re attractive enough to hook up with. Trust me if you think you have it bad, there’s a lot worse. So look on the bright side.

    • exposing_hypocrits

      Dude I stand behind you. Keep your head up!

    • cfishy

      … Maybe you can ask Maggie out?

    • Guy Tintintininbaum

      Thats the hypocrisy of this sort of racism. She wants the right to be racist and only date white men and she wants everyone else to respect her for that and on top of that disrespect white men because they fall into the racism she is initiating.

    • airmanjoe

      Being a 20 year old virgin isn’t that bad. At 40 years is when it becomes a comedy, though.

    • Annon

      lol that’s pretty hopeless

  • Wilson MacGregor

    it started off “dear penthouse forum” but then it got all “shaun king got the wrong toppings on a pizza so racism”…

  • Brandon Stewart

    People commenting criticizing her for making it about race… you’re missing the point. Men do have this privilage in general in society to get away with being promiscuous while women get shamed for the same behavior, lets admit that. The point she was making is often white men will hook up with other races but still have this embedded racism to marry a white girl. She was acknowledging the general patriarchy of it being young men that show this behavior, but also observing that she’s just “the hot asian roommate” who’s feelings would potentially be less considered.

    It exists, as a white man I can admit it. You’re not being attacked and accusing people of “pc” or “sjw” just deters from the point. You don’t need to get mad. Just try to open a bit outside from your normal perspective.

    • fundamentalvalues

      It is about race though. You said it yourself, its “this embedded racism”. You even “admit” that it exists, whatever that means. So at the end of the day, she’s complaining that because of her race, she’s being objectified by (white) men. And I’m criticizing her because although there might be people like you who are imbedded racists, I do believe most people aren’t. I’m criticizing her because I think the central cause of her not being considered by someone as a legitimate romantic prospect is her own promiscuity or some other reason along the lines of that other than race. Also, even if something like this embedded racism “exists”, well to what extent? Perhaps you can prove for arguments sake that it exists simply because you yourself claim to be an “imbedded racist”, but how can you prove that many or most white men feel the same way? I’m not going to make the same mistake as you and try make some sort of absolute statement, but from my experiences of going to school for 13 years with mostly white people and having white friends, I don’t think that most white men are imbedded racists.

    • oceanmachine

      Did you even read the article? This has nothing to do with promiscuity. Stop parroting talking points and think.

    • ThothMRM

      Lets admit you’re an idiot. A racist sexist idiot.

    • Leon Miller

      Cuck of the week right here. Good boy.

  • consideredshitlord

    None of these comments will have an effect on Maggie, even if she reads them, because she’s not interested in finding truth or actual justice. She’s using a social justice narrative to further her own interests, obtain power, and cover up her insecurities. For her, the right answers are the ones that she immediately benefits from the most. It’s very rational, in a way.

    • GetItGoing

      So true!

    • Malik Mohammed

      Maggie talks about “privilege” in the article as being allocated to people unlike her. Yet her privilege as a female minority allows her to write articles where she admittedly forces herself on a man, and then uses the rejection to make bigoted generalizations of white guys and their mindset. If a similar article was written with the roles reversed, the white male author would be forced to apologize, maybe step down from his position, and possibly even be investigated. Not to mention the attacks that would come his way in the media.

      • lspanker

        Well stated and to the point.

      • airmanjoe

        Right on. The best privileges go unrecognized.

      • Daniel Mano

        So so true. This piece seriously offended me, and I am an actual sex-positive white male who takes other backgrounds and believes into serious consideration. Not to mention me being a professional journalist.

      • Eric Pederson

        Well said.

      • WHITE GUY

        Maggie, like most asian girls, has white fever.

        • Mark McKarrion

          Exactly.

          “As we turned the corner, we met face to
          face. Already knowing the answer, I put my arms around his neck and
          bluntly asked, “Could I kiss you?”

          Then

          “It didn’t matter because on my flowery
          bedspread, under the twinkly string lights, it was a race to get naked. I
          untied my white blouse as he helped unbutton it. We pulled off his
          sweater, and as I sat on top of him, feeling his stiff, denim jeans, I
          relished in the success of my sexual pursuit. It wasn’t until I began to
          unbuckle his belt that I noticed the hesitancy in his big blue eyes.”

          LOL

          Seems very one sided to me. Maggie chased this guy, damn near tried to rape him and he said NO. I don’t blame him. She was using him to fulfill her potato queen desires.

      • utera

        I find this amusing, “male privilege”, its the standard sexist feminist application of selective interpretation. Gender swap the story and it would have been excused as “female empowerment” and the emasculated guilt would understood to be gender based shaming.

        “white privilege”, pretty rich for a person going to UC Berkeley, how much is your tuition again?
        Sjw language while you are effectively the new “yellow jew” being discriminated against the same way jews were back in the 1920s, when Harvard actually proposed a quota. The harsher requirements on asians is effectively in practice an attempt at this.

        “objects”, aka gender based shaming of the male perspective on sexuality, and frankly little more than marx’s “commodity fetishism” stolen by feminism. And all the more rich considering that if applied consistently its obvious that women view men as status objects, and this “objectification” combined with feminist grievance narratives helps explain why women are so ready to screw over men in divorce.

        And I especially find this story hilarious because asian girls are well known for their “racial” preferences. I’ve known a few who state it plain, and in this case it reeks of entitlement reminiscent of Elliot Rogers.
        Combine this with the sjw mindset and you have a walking contradictions, complaining about fetishization while being guilty of it themselves. Not that sjw ideology is ever consistent since it is the most racist and sexist perspective around, reducing people to what they are at every chance, Dr. King’s call to judge people on the “content of their character” simply takes a back seat to the progressive stacks ranking of every superficial aspect of a person.

        And seriously? When gender norms and traditions are thrown out the window, why should any man treat women seriously? It’s clear feminists only pursue monogamous relationships because its primarily only beneficial to women, feminism has rendered it completely toxic to men. Feminists love to talk about oppression, but the ugly reality is there is nothing as oppressive emotionally and financially and legally than marriage, which is why feminists have not destroyed it yet.

        mgtow knowledge
        http://pastebin.com/BhP4A3sB
        Simply required, especially in the Bay Area where the gender imbalance only amplifies the issues at hand.

        • Chief Smakaho

          Right on. Feminism is cancer.

        • Emilio Lizardo

          Elliot Rogers was anything but entitled, he was rejected and lonely. He would simply have been another male suicide statistic if he hadn’t invited a few others on his checking out.

        • IanC

          Nicely ‘penned’ utera!

      • IanC

        So very true Malik! She talks very acidically when all the while s he KNOWS his situation and KNOWS her friends have slept with him, but then pulls the race card, buy calling a boy a ‘white boy’; and worse ‘Fucking white boys’. How despicable, sexist and racist can you get? How utterly ‘privileged’ can you get without realising it? How piggish and entitled can a bitch like this be, and all the while have the gall to write in such racist, sexist terms. Too right, if the roles were reversed, you have bitches like her all over the bloody pages with vitriol. Oh the irony of feminism!!!!

        I think guys, especially ‘white’ guys need to steer clear of these acidic, toxic, chip-on-their-shoulder Asian bitches! However there are some damned nice Asian women. I’m married to one and have been for many years. But I VERY much doubt this bitch will ever be happy, let alone even find a decent guy, for she isn’t with it! Such a ‘cow’ of a woman – and she’s even got the nose piece to prove it!

      • Brooklyn Man

        Oh, female minority privilege is a thing that exists now?

        • Bob

          On college campuses? Yup.

    • Nunya Beeswax

      You are precisely right.

      • Clay

        ^^^^ angry dudes section

        • Nunya Beeswax

          If it makes you feel better to think so.

          • rms

            Cuck – right down to the David Brent “oh look at me…. I ‘get’ idiosyncratic’ humor” avatar.

        • Chief Smakaho

          Pathetic cuck^^^

      • I wonder if this article is an experiment to weed out guys who would agree with and thus be unsuitable breeding partners….

        • IanC

          So when feminazi, and people like you write acidic, sexists hateful pieces it’s because of ‘oppression’; but when guys do it or defend themselves, then it’s legitimised by weeding out ‘unsuitable breeding partners’? Oh the irony and the double standards of you dimwits knows no bounds….. Blinkered vision, indoctrinated minds and living with a victim hood mentality. I pity you. You need help!

          • Maybe read my comment again “I wonder if *this article* is an experiment to weed out guys who would agree with and thus be unsuitable breeding partners…” as in cucks who would take the side of the rapist and thus not be suitable breeding partners.

        • IanC

          So when feminazi, and people like you write acidic, sexists hateful pieces it’s because of ‘oppression’; but when guys do it or defend themselves, then it’s legitimised by weeding out ‘unsuitable breeding partners’? Oh the irony and the double standards of you dimwits knows no bounds….. Blinkered vision, indoctrinated minds and living with a victim hood mentality. I pity you. You need help!

    • dirtybluefl

      Dragging her to the Mexican border, climbing to the top of the Trump Wall, putting a rope around her neck, and then kicking her off onto the Mexican side, will SURELY have an affect on Maggie.

      • The Ratkiller

        Let’s break your girly arms for kicks, teabag.

        • dirtybluefl

          I’d love to smash your skull in.

          • The Ratkiller

            You’re too fat and weak to any such thing, princess.

          • dirtybluefl

            Nah, fgt. I’ll see you on the end of a braided wire by the end of 2017. We’re gonna find you, kiddo. We have all the power now :^)

    • habitualjoker

      They’re also not *meant* to have an effect on Maggie. The point of meeting speech with speech is to scrutinize ideas in a way that *everyone* can see multiple sides. If no one commented, people could easily read her writing, see no objections, and think her views were somehow acceptable.

  • pamplemousse

    I think making generalizations about races as a whole based on your limited set of experiences is highly unprofessional and is probably hurting a lot of people who are reading this post, myself included. As a girl who is both Asian and White (I’m mixed if you didn’t get that), what are you saying about me? Let me guess – I’m a tool and a product of Asian subjugation and a essentially just a Chonker? Ow, that hurts.

    I find the usage of “persons of color” to include all races except the white race is also problematic as it is basically placing blame and shame on a group of people that may have had their wrongdoings (as with any group of people), but ostracizing and shaming them isn’t the thing to do. What ever happened to a colorblind society that we all idealize about?

    • Wilson MacGregor

      write an article entitled “f’n asian girls” and make some comparably specious argument generalizing about them as a whole and see how fast you get kicked out of school… (not you personally !)

    • MaryRunaround

      Are you sure it is okay to write ‘chonker’?

    • EmailsTextsCalla

      Ever see those ‘WARNING educated student of color” t shirts?

    • omgwtfbbqhax1

      “I’m a tool and a product of Asian subjugation and a essentially just a Chonker”

      If you happen to have a white last name, then you are.

    • MelloZee

      “What happened to a colorblind society”? It never existed. It came from white people trying to shut down any accusations of racism, and that they’re on the side of people of color. But how can you even be colorblind and “not see color” when, assuming you are not blind, you can see that someone has a different skintone or complexion than your own?

      • And here we have the award for ‘least aware/historically educated” responder! Congrats Mello, your prize package includes an assignment to research the civil rights movement in the United States, and who actually advocated for a “colorblind society”. Here’s a tip-it was the civil rights activists, not white people, who wanted to create it.

      • GetItGoing

        You can’t have it both ways. The double standards where people want “equality” and yet when they have an agenda or want an advantage suddenly play the race card are bullshit and it’s pathetic. People are tired of it.

        Most average people don’t care much about race and just worry about making a living and being content. Race baiters cause drama and make claims with no basis in reality.

      • lspanker

        Ever consider that maybe the reason there’s not a “race-blind” society is that many of the alleged sufferers would lose their “victim” status, and nobody would give them a platform to spew their nonsense? After all, who wants to listen to whiners all the time?

      • JAC

        A color blind society is an aspiration. Not something people claim existed or exists. It’s a goal (for some). Jeez. You got into college?

  • Beans

    Maybe the worst article the Daily Cal has ever posted, and that’s saying something. Thank you, student body, for voting to keep this bullshit in publication.

  • lspanker

    Ignore these idiots, Maggie! White men (and women) love to f-ck people of color, but rarely take one of us home to mom.

    Total BS. I have dated Filipina, Korean and Vietnamese women over the years, and I have never chosen to be with one who I would have been embarrassed to introduce to friends and family.

    Dan Spitzer is scum.

    I’m sure we could say much worse about you.

    Doesn’t understand the concept of racism because as a white man he has never experienced it.

    And you know that for a fact?

    • Dan Spitzer

      Ispanker, I don’t have to say anything pejorative about the Cisco Kid. He has outed himself for the low individual he clearly is and I need add nothing more to what he has already exposed himself to be…

    • cfishy

      I’m Asian, and I wouldn’t take her to my parents either.

  • ThatDude9393

    So let me get this straight. He was intoxicated. He was hesitant to keep hooking up with you, and when he told you why he wasn’t giving you enthusiastic consent you said “I don’t fucking care.” He repeatedly stopped and voiced his lack of enthusiasm. You continued, blatantly disregarding his repeatedly voiced trepidation. Sounds like pretty textbook sexual assault to me.

    • Diana Rose Newby

      YES. There is a great deal wrong with this article, but the worst is that the author tries to pass off an incredibly disturbing anecdote about pressuring a hesitant partner into sexual contact as evidence of having been fetishized and objectified by said partner. So confused, so dismayed, and – as a DC alum – so disappointed in the Daily Cal.

      • oceanmachine

        Classic projection.

        • Santo Domingo

          I dunno, the author appears to have mastered the IMAX™ PROJECTION 3D!

          • RockFourFour

            Disney/Pixar, in association with UC Berkelely, presents “Your Penis is Bad and You Should Feel Bad”.

            In theaters this summer.

        • Francis G

          She seems awfully envious of whites. Check her other articles. She pedestalizes white, then gets all bitter that she isn’t one.

          She has a very strange love-hate relationship with the white race. Here’s her column from two weeks prior to the one linked in the OP:

          http://www.dailycal.org/2016/06/16/speaking-out/

        • kartashok

          White worship Asian date rapist is what the OP is.

      • Malik Mohammed

        What I find funny is that from my experience as an outsider, Asian women seem to objectify white men more than white men objectify Asian women. Don’t Asian women have the highest rates of interracial relationships? Why are they so obsessed with white guys? Black girls aren’t. Indian girls aren’t. And it’s not just attractive white guys either. I’m always seeing hot Asian girls with mediocre white guys. It’s like they fetishize white guys so much they will screw any of them.

        Sexual fetishism is perhaps most common among Muslim and Indian guys though. They will fool around with other girls, but when it comes to marrying, they overwhelmingly choose their fellow Muslim or Indian women. So to act like this is a white male phenomenon is far from correct. The author clearly just has insecure racist motives.

        • Alex Andrés

          “Don’t Asian women have the highest rates of interracial relationships? Why are they so obsessed with white guys?”

          most asian women dont have souls. Only desire for social climbing and financial reward and material gain.

          • airmanjoe

            I don’t know where you got that idea but it sounds like you’ve just had a few bad experiences.

          • Alex Andrés

            “most asian women dont have souls.”

            its true about most asians in general. All the compassionate people with a sense of morality were wiped out in the thousands of years of different kings and their dynasties essentially wiping out entire villages of anyone who had a spark of rebelliousness or individuality. They’ve literally removed the soul from the gene pool in china and korea. They’re not like the japanese or the southern asians like the Thai or Phlips or Laotians. And no they’re not like that because of communism, they were already soulless ants, but communism just made that aspect of their being worse.

          • Alex Andrés

            “most asian women dont have souls.”

            its true about most asians in general. All the compassionate people with a sense of morality were wiped out in the thousands of years of different kings and their dynasties essentially wiping out entire villages of anyone who had a spark of rebelliousness or individuality. They’ve literally removed the soul from the gene pool in china and korea. They’re not like the japanese or the southern asians like the Thai or Phlips or Laotians. And no they’re not like that because of communism, they were already soulless ants, but communism just made that aspect of their being worse.

          • kelly li

            Oh, so the Japanese aren’t “soulless ants”? You do realize that in Japan, underaged prostitution is literally one the highest in East Asian countries. And the reason that these middle and high school girls are willing to do so is because they are lured with the money? SMH At least communism is better than child prostitution.

          • Brombray

            Nah, the best example would be Japan’s WWII behavior, which was nothing short of inhuman for the most part. They spared virtually none of the people they conquered and warred against some of the absolute limits of depravity and evil, especially Unit 731. They believed their Emperor to be a god and were subjected to North Korea-like brainwashing and militarism, and were potentially willing to fight to the last woman and child. They embodied the absolute worst of what people think of when they speak of the “conformity” of asian cultures.

            Now that Japan is civilized and developed, there’s an incredible number of people who act like this has been a timeless thing and are all too eager to suck Japan’s d**k, like this retard and his cartoon analysis of Chinese/Korean history and culture (also, South Korea isn’t developed and civilized?). It’s ironic, because allied WWII propaganda frequently portrayed the Chinese as the civilized ones and the Japanese as soulless, and I’m sure many people’s grandfathers had the same opinion. They weren’t entirely unjustified.

            Also, love calling southeast asians the ones with souls- isn’t southeast asia much poorer and SE asians frequently regarded as less intelligent than east asians? Nevermind how much gene flow from southern China there’s been into mainland southeast asia. And if you’re curious, go on Google street view and take a look at the Philippines, most of it’s been mapped now. I had no idea how horrible that country was until then. It’s honestly on par with many parts of Africa and India. But these people are superior to the Chinese?

          • SvenTheBold

            Having grown up with multiple friends of southeast Asian heritage, let me personally assure you that there is precisely zero wrong with their genes, or their culture. Their nations are short on cash for now, but that’ll change.

            But as long as we’re being abjectly racist, you’ve never seen intellectual inferiority until you’ve argued with a flock of New Englanders over whether some rando’s trash-filled creekbed is actually a map-marked trail through scenic forestland. I mean, I knew that living in a pus-filled eyesore for four years would involve learning to import the word “squalor” with new meaning — I was under no impressions that I would be going to a clean, civilized city like Madison — but for the love of God and all things holy, I didn’t expect people to clam up and turn the other way when I pointed out that the air in the NY subway system has a notable grainy texture that left my throat inflamed for days every time I had the misfortune of passing through it. Like, for real, people, is it too much to ask that you clean your house maybe once a year?

          • Alex Andrés

            lol 16 year olds aka “child prostitutes.”

          • roxtoto

            i belieb it

          • Primary

            Bullshit, the inbred pinays from Olongopo are the worst of the worst

          • kingkwon

            If this isn’t the most racist psuedoscientific bullshit I’ve seen on an article the month then I’m Donald Trump.

          • WHITE GUY

            All the asian girls I know have white fever.

          • kelly li

            ANNDDD now you are just as bad as the author.

          • goldenbear

            I agree. Let’s try and keep the hypocrisy to a minimum here.

          • ContraMuffin

            That comment is really not okay. I’m confident you can figure out why.

          • IanC

            Isn’t this western women too? LOL!

        • goldenbear

          The whole reason most people are upset with this article is because the author is making offensive generalizations about a whole racial group based off minimal experiences. So you should probably not do the same if you want to make any valid arguments against her.

        • Katarina Le

          Actually, from what I’ve seen and experienced in college, all races objectify Asian women, not the other way around. But if that does happen, who are you to say what other people’s preferences are?

          • NOT_racist_if_true

            Asian women fetishize white men . Women 99% of the time have the final say on who they choose to be with. Men seek and women choose.

          • WHITE GUY

            From what I’ve seen and experienced in REAL LIFE, all the asian girls I know have white fever.

          • Katarina Le

            Okay, sure, that may be true, but it can easily be the other way around , no? It takes 2 to make a relationship.

          • WHITE GUY

            Not when girls like Maggie are throwing themselves at white guys.

          • Katarina Le

            Also, what about white guys who rape Asian women? You act like white guys get immunity. Like at the Vietnam War.

          • WHITE GUY

            Vietnamese hookers were begging white soldiers to bang them and take them to the USA.

          • Katarina Le

            Wow, with that statement, it just shows how ignorant you are.

          • Anon

            Says the Asian girl who doesn’t feel comfortable being called out on her white fetishism.

          • Katarina Le

            Who said I had a white fetishism? I didn’t say that at all. Move on, please.

          • Anon

            I just said you did, I thought Asians were supposed to be smart. Don’t tell me what to do.

          • Douche McBags

            It’s true, I was there, maaaan.

          • M S

            congrats on looking so stupid

          • kartashok

            You’re a hypocrite scum. You only care about Asian American women, you hate your own men, but want other races of men to take you seriously. We see how you treat your men, that’s all the respect that that you’ll get from white guys.

          • Katarina Le

            We hate our own men? Then why do majority of Asian American women marry within their own ethnicity? Please.

          • kartashok

            40-50% get with specifically white men. So that’s about 40% that will either not get married or marry an Asian guy after getting tons of white boys throughout her teens and twenties.

        • JL

          they are uncle tom white worshiping bed wenches

      • CalAlum99

        I’m not donating to Cal anymore until I get clarification that no funds will go towards this publication, it’s gotten ridiculous.

        • utera

          People donating to any college should reconsider until its clear they don’t discriminate against conservatives(other than muslims)
          http://www.breitbart.com/milo/2016/07/01/milo-ariana-rowlands-discuss-ways-universitys-attempt-shut-conservatives-campus/
          And the gender studies departments by default should make people reconsider, the entire bloated mess of higher education which is saddling generations with debt and useless degrees should make people reconsider.
          Not just useless, but as we can see with this indoctrination, they come out not just less functional but toxic to a functioning society.

        • Leon Miller

          If you’re still donating to almost any institution of higher education these days, you’re subsidizing this kind of crap. Same thing if you’re still paying for cable/ satellite TV– you’re only encouraging them.

          • SvenTheBold

            One of the basic laws of economics is that businesses will strive to provide their customers with products that said customers will pay for. By removing yourself as a customer wholesale from the cable/satellite media market, and refusing to support the programming which you find least distasteful, you’re just giving those businesses further reign to play to their remaining market: i.e. liberals.

            And if you believe that the owners of media businesses are part of some vast conspiracy to shut down right-wing programming… well, perhaps you can see the same social processes that we complain about, when we decry businesses who seek to use government corruption to override popular sentiment with regards to labor and environmental protections.

            Sincerely, Socialists, from everywhere.

          • IanC

            And following your ‘logic’ (rolls eyes) either way we lose: So, according to you, we lose if we don’t continue to pay into their coffers, BUT if we DO continue to fund them, then they are still going to abuse the funding anyway, and keep upsetting a wider audience. I think you need educating in ‘logical thinking and ethics’. What planet were you born on?

        • Deuce Sevenoff

          I wouldn’t donate to any school that wasted money on a “critical theory” or “social justice” program of any stripe. The stuff is basically a religion made up out of thin air and has absolutely no place in any academic environment.

      • Tibs

        She has every right to publish this piece, as it constitutes her free speech. I guess DC didn’t have to publish it, but it is suspect. How her own campus, DC, and the body of people who demonize men’s sexuality and unconditionally rally behind any female accuser handle this admission will be the real test.

        • Diana Rose Newby

          Free speech is only part of what’s at stake here. If the DC wants to continue to represent itself as a legitimate journalistic organization, the Editorial Board is obligated to hold its writers accountable to basic standards of not just moral but also rhetorical integrity. The argument that this author attempts to make is based on an ethically questionable anecdote that in fact does nothing to illustrate her claims. At the very least, someone should have told her to rewrite the piece with a different story that clearly demonstrates her experiences of objectification as an Asian-American woman (experiences that she may very well have had in other scenarios), rather than a story about coercing someone into sexual activity and then writing off his unwillingness to participate as racism.

          • IanC

            Indeed. There is free speech and there’s ‘hatred’ or ‘incitement to racial hatred’, or even ‘blatant misandry’ (AKA sour grapes towards men generally just because of your own poor behaviour).

          • Tibs

            I think you’re a bit confused.
            There’s “free speech” and there’s “non-protected speech.”
            Incitement, defamation, and libel are not free. None of those occur here.
            “Hatred” and “lying” and “telling distasteful stories” are (for the most part) free speech. We have to recognize when speech is not protected, but we can’t pretend speech we don’t like is different from free speech in general.

          • J.L.

            Lying is not free, if it causes harm it is libel. Also, telling distasteful stories may be false light.

          • IanC

            I think it’s you who is confused. I don’t know where you are based, but here in my country ‘incitement to racial hatred’ or ‘incitement to hatred’ generally IS treated as a crime, and will invoke police investigation.

            Trying to be a smart-arse doesn’t do you any favours, and neither does it otherwise diminish what I have said. You need to take stock of this.

      • Chris J

        agree. She’s a pretty angry young woman.

    • 1776

      This article should be forwarded to w/e anti sexual assault squad Berkeley has cooked up these days. Maggie should be expelled.

      • Dustin Lapish

        It is. These sjw feminazis deserve a taste of their own medicine. Any anti-fascit, anti progressives reading this should dog pile this disgusting pig and get her expelled…or possibly even have charges brought up on her.

        This evil must stop.

        • CyberEagle

          It must, indeed, but really at the cost of becoming what you fight? I don’t know.

          • Comenius

            They’ll never learn until it starts getting turned on them. Still, even if the men did wake up and demand that this girl was treated like any one of them would be, I think you’d still find that the administration wouldn’t do anything. In the end, there are two sets of rules, one for boys and one for girls.

        • XJ4

          Anti fascist and anti progressive are the complete opposite.

      • cfishy

        registered sex offenders list.

      • calGreek17

        Please report any crimes to UCPD here:

        https://local.nixle.com/tip/alert/5669495

        Sexual assault has no place in a modern society.

      • Jeff Lubensky

        totally agree – also in violation of hostile environment policy: https://ophd.berkeley.edu/policies-procedures/hostile-environment

        Also see: from sexual harrasment policy:

        The University also has a compelling interest in free inquiry and the collective search for
        knowledge and thus recognizes principles of academic freedom as a special area of
        protected speech. Consistent with these principles, no provision of this Policy shall be
        interpreted to prohibit conduct that is legitimately related to the course content, teaching
        methods, scholarship, or public commentary of an individual faculty member or the
        educational, political, artistic, or literary expression of students in classrooms and public
        forums (See APM-010 and 015.)

        However, freedom of speech and academic freedom are not limitless and do not protect
        speech or expressive conduct that violates federal or State anti-discrimination laws.

        • Bruce Brown

          Speech cannot violate state or federal anti-discrimination laws. only conduct can violate those statutes.

      • Primary

        Won’t do anything at a modern university. I went through having a girl threaten to kill herself to start, and maintain, a semester long sexual relationship at Bradley. When it was brought to a designated reporter’s attention, they claimed that it wasn’t her fault because she had BPD.

    • ayyyelmao

      “I don’t care” was a response to her not caring about him feeling bad about hooking up with her. This doesnt smell anything like sexual assault

      • Dustin Lapish

        Unfortunately for her, under the guidelines set forth by her school, what she did absolutely falls under the definition of sexual assault.

        It’s a clear cut case of coercion and force. She’s dead in the water.

        The only way I won’t persue her expulsion is if she formally apologizes to her victim and white men in general.

        • Santo Domingo

          If her victim can’t get a restraining order that prevents their being on the same campus, this world is nuts. In addition to a civil suit since I’m guessing the kid’s identity is going to be public, which in the context might even put an end to his desire to finish his studies at this location due to the social stigma.

        • IanC

          Here her! She ‘raped’ him and abused him and now uses ‘sexism’ to make her language even more incendiary. Nasty, bitter piece of work she is!

          • Trilkhai

            She raped him without either of them taking their clothes off? (Never mind she also says explicitly that he’d make comments about feeling bad, then continue their physical activity — he wasn’t a passive participant, so to speak.)

          • Deuce Sevenoff

            So…he was “asking for it?”

          • toofarinsideacar

            we don’t know, y’all! based on her narrative, he was participating. might have been active, might have been passive. we just literally do not know what their conversation (or lack there of) about consent looked like.

            he was hesitant because he felt *guilty* about hooking up which is not the same as not wanting to hook up. unless every single affair is assault.

            maybe he wanted to.maybe he didn’t. we don’t know.

          • Deuce Sevenoff

            Well, “maybe he wanted it, maybe he didn’t” doesn’t hold up when the pronoun becomes feminine. And that is what folks here are saying: by the standards that many college men have had their careers destroyed by the “51% rule,” the “Dear Colleague” letter, and “Yes Means Yes,” Ms. Lam should be well into the Kafkaesque process by now. Yet, she’s not. The hypocrisy is deafening.

          • toofarinsideacar

            Duece, I didn’t mean it was ok for her to continue doing sexual things if she wasn’t sure he wanted it. That would not be ok. What I mean is that we, the readers, do not have the information as to whether or not he wanted it. There is an answer but we do not have it.

            That all said, I think this is an important conversation – so I am glad folks are raising concerns. And I do think women do also have to be cautious of objectifying and harming men as well. Basically, we need to have lots more communication about consent. I personally don’t think it’s as simple as “yes means yes” even because people can be pressured into saying the word “yes.” We do need to get better at reading body language and checking in with our partners.

          • IanC

            Nothing you’ve said is UNtrue. BUT if the genders were reversed you can be SURE the feminists AND the educational establishment would have come down like a ton or bricks an d, being a male, he WOULD be presumed guilty until proven innocent. So maybe you need to extend what you’ve written to finish your piece, for it’s incomplete without this assertion.

          • IanC

            Whether or not they had their clothes on matter diddly squat! Rape can happen with or without. What kind of rape apologist are you? There was NO enthusiastic consent, so s he raped him! Understand? (I somehow doubt it…..) – shakes head in disgust.

      • Jeff Lubensky

        The article itself is a problem – in violation of hostile environment policy: https://ophd.berkeley.edu/poli

        Also see: from sexual harassment policy:

        The University also has a compelling interest in free inquiry and the collective search for
        knowledge and thus recognizes principles of academic freedom as a special area of
        protected speech. Consistent with these principles, no provision of this Policy shall be
        interpreted to prohibit conduct that is legitimately related to the course content, teaching
        methods, scholarship, or public commentary of an individual faculty member or the
        educational, political, artistic, or literary expression of students in classrooms and public
        forums (See APM-010 and 015.)

        However, freedom of speech and academic freedom are not limitless and do not protect
        speech or expressive conduct that violates federal or State anti-discrimination laws.

    • James Renner

      I think the word you’re looking for is RAPE. Or, in Ms. Lam’s mind, is rape something only men are capable of doing?

      • kingkwon

        The words dry-humping and blue balls imply that your word choice is wrong and you’re reaching.

        • Santo Domingo

          She says specifically she got “bored” of dry-humping, suggesting he was trying to put up a block/barrier to the interaction progressing further down the rabbit hole. Also, this is her account. He isn’t quoted saying “oohhhh godddd my blue balls!” She’s claiming he HAS blue balls, so her sexual advances are her GENEROSITY.

          Like, “that girl over there? Huge slut. Lemme do her a favor and catch her in the stairwell and force myself on her, she might object but you know she needs it.” e.g.

          • kingkwon

            First off Jesus Christ that comment was incredibly not okay.

            However she said she got bored of dry humping and all we know of the account indicates that it stalled from there means that attempting to upgrade from sexual assault to rape is completely baseless.

          • greenleif .

            Are you stating that Sexual Assault is “less important” or “at least not as bad as” rape?

            If not, are you then saying that what she called “making out/dry humping” is harmless & if the guy didn’t like it he should have left sooner? Or not gone up to her room with her? Or just not talk to or interact with her at all?

            Or hopefully the way you worded it just sounds like that, and you recognize that the *least* she’s done is SEXUAL ASSAULT.

            @ moonsugarlily 💜💚

          • kingkwon

            All rape is sexual assault not all sexual assault is rape. The poster in question simply chose to use the word rape because it’s a better buzzword and it will score him points with the meninists on this page with a complete disregard to the actual definition of rape and the facts presented. Everything else you said was pure speculation and questions that in no way directly interact with statements I have made.

        • Will

          Shit it’s rape if a man just looks at a woman, so this is like double rape.

        • Mengles

          The word choice the author uses of “dry-humping” and “blue balls”, seem more to pin the motivation and behavior on the other person when it’s actually from herself.

          • Austin Mabry

            We call that “Victim-blaming.”

        • molestedgecko

          So as long as the victim doesn’t cum, it’s not rape. Hmm, the more you know.

          • kingkwon

            Dry-humping strongly implies a lack of penetration. Unless I’ve been doing it wrong.

          • Primary

            So, only 87% of violent, male on female, rapes are actually rape.

        • matt10023

          His confusion is understandable. Sexual assault, misconduct and rape have been conflated into an overarching message of “rape culture”. I don’t think she did anything wrong (outside of being a jerk), but I’m a reasonable person. College males are held to different and capricious standards. Women can do whatever they want it seems.

          • Emilio Lizardo

            It’s not about being reasonable, it’s about applying the asinine rules of Title IX equally to women. Exposing how asinine those rules are.

          • matt10023

            Two wrongs don’t make a right. But perhaps when women are held to the to the same standards colleges will stop the inquisitions. I’m not optimistic though. When police started arresting women for domestic violence, feminists changed the rules, so that men were nearly always held accountable.

          • Trilkhai

            Care to quote the “rules” of Title IX? I know I’m curious about what the heck you think they are…

    • Alex Andrés

      DATS RAPE!

    • Ryan Lee

      100% disagree, I don’t think that she sexually assaulted Sam, and Sam shouldn’t feel sexually assaulted either. Other than saying he ‘felt bad’, Sam made no real attempt to reject her and was just conflicted.

      I think many people are blowing a misunderstanding out of proportion and out of context.

      And no one should call the school and report it. If Sam had a problem with it he would have gone to
      authorities or will go at another point in time, at his own discretion. But Sam doesn’t have a problem with it and if he does, I assume Sam is smarter than that and settles it outside of school authorities, especially because he does not have a strong case at all and would draw a lot of media fire for both him and Maggie. And what would he gain and what would you gain for having Maggie reported? Not much I don’t think.

      • Laotuz

        That’s victim blaming in the world of SJW’s.

        • IanC

          But it depends WHO the ‘victim’ is! in this case it’s the guy, so you cannot ‘blame’ him – though SJWs and feminists still will.

      • Cody

        This is hilarious. Replace “Sam” with “Samantha”, re-read what you wrote, then tell me you would post the same thing if the genders were reversed in this story.

        • Ryan Lee

          I do not consider this sexual assault though. She should not have to face heat for a misunderstanding. Everyone makes small mistakes in this kind of situations, but it shouldn’t mean you should face heat from the authorities. If I made a similar mistake, I don’t feel that I deserve to be reported and have a misunderstanding blown out of proportion

      • JAC

        There’s no requirement to make a “real attempt to reject” a sexual assault.

        I’m not saying Sam was assaulted in my own, more traditional view of such things.

        I’m saying the modern, hair-trigger definitions of sexual assault and rape are what they are … and it looks like she triggered them. Let her reap what those definitions have sown.

      • Swarles Barlos

        Sometimes the victims of sexual assault are bullied into silence. So even if Sam doesn’t report it, the rest of us have an obligation to report this bigoted predator

        • Ryan Lee

          But Sam is not a victim because he was not sexually assaulted. This kind of misunderstanding is very common both ways between genders. I know plenty of people who have made similar mistakes but neither party even thought of the word ‘rape’ because no harm no foul

          • roxtoto

            He repeatedly expressed that he wasn’t comfortable with the sexual intercourse happening. That’s rape by the feminist definition.

          • IanC

            roxtoto is right. Think about it!

          • Leon Miller

            You are just enabling “rape culture,” you bigot.

      • J Campbell

        Lol. Rape is rape. Switch the genders and you would be foaming at the mouth.

      • AnOski

        >Sam made no real attempt to reject her and was just conflicted.

        That’s why it’s called affirmative consent and not passive consent. Jesus Christ. If you don’t get an affirmative yes, you don’t push it. That’s called coercion and it’s an integral part of many sexual assaults.

        • IanC

          I agree with your general feeing, BUT Brian, below, sums it up as a feminist or SJW would, so his take should apply, as it would against a guy if acted this way.

      • IanC

        But she abused her allure over the boy. She took advantage of his weakness. This has all the hallmarks of coercion via ‘grooming’ and suggestive looks. When a man stares of behaves in this way, he’s considered as ‘raping’ her, so the same applies to women doing it to men. Equality is just that, but these women and girls don’t like it when it applies to them!

      • Leon Miller

        “Sam made no real attempt to reject her” Sad that you would engage in such victim-blaming. What are you, some kind of fascist?. Why don’t you support victims of sexual assault, instead of attacking them? You’re on the wrong side of history, you troglodyte.

    • WHITE GUY

      Maggie seems to have severe WHITE FEVER

    • Brian

      Sounds like she raped him, to me.

      • Douche McBags

        Don’t be ridiculous. A woman, especially one of a minority group, cannot possibly rape a White man. I don’t know what movies you’ve been watching, buddy, but that’s not how the story goes in my 3500+ collection of adult “entertainment” titles. Not even one. And if someone was to try it, I guarantee that critics and patrons of the genre will widely pan such anticlimactic (pun possibly intended) and uninteresting drivel. Better pull up your britches, junior, I can see your White privilege showing, and there’s little a holes and skid marks all over it.

        • Tom

          Any recommendations from your library? I find especially arousing pseudo-intellectual Asian girls getting pwned.

    • itchy8me

      You are right, according to SJW doctrine, this is rape.

    • itchy8me

      Oh wait.. i forgot only PIV can rape…

    • XianLeo

      It’s only rape and sexual assault when Men do it, the rules and laws don’t apply to women in the twisted world of feminists!

    • Wendy Mac Park

      Agreed. She’s a rapist, no two ways about it.

    • Mark Neil

      But remember… it is MEN that need to be taught what is and isn’t consent. we have women like Maggie, trying to force and bully men into sex and getting incredibly angry when they fail. We have other women deciding the consensual sex they had 7 months earlier was, in fact rape, because the guy decided he didn’t want to have a relationship after all, and then started dating someone else. But it is men that don’t understand what consent is?

    • Comenius

      See, none of that applies because of the REAL PRIVILEGE in our society, that of FEMALES and ESPECIALLY, MINORITY FEMALES.

  • Dan Spitzer

    I have plenty of times experienced forms of racism, mostly from Palestinians while walking as a Jew in Israel or from Muslims in Europe who learned I was Jewish. And, oh yes, now from the Cisco Kid…

    • lspanker

      I recall walking through one of the old cemeteries on the Mount of Olives in East Jerusalem, having little Pallie kids throw rocks at me screaming “Yehudim” or something like that. Not that I was worried about getting hurt by them, but it was just startling to see kids who had been programmed with complete overwhelming hatred at such a young age…

  • Rebecca

    Fellow white people, sometimes y’all need to sit down and listen instead of trying to be the center of everything. Esp. White men, y’all need to stop this woe is me shit. If you feel attacked by pc culture, as you so lovingly refer to it, it’s probably because you’re used to having your racist, misogynist behavior go unchecked. Welcome to the future. Now shut the fuck up

    • lspanker

      Fellow white people, sometimes y’all need to sit down and listen instead of trying to be the center of everything.

      If you start every article with racist remarks and generalizations, with the impression that you have a chip on your shoulder, some of us aren’t going to bother reading the rest. In addition, if the ONLY thing you can think of when you write an article for a collegiate level publication (hard print or online) is your paranoia and obsession with how white people are treating you, it’s likely you don’t really have much of a life to begin with…

      White men, y’all need to stop this woe is me sh!t.

      Project much? The biggest whiners and crybabies in the DC are the self-proclaimed “non-whites” accusing everyone else of being “racist” every time their little feelings are hurt. If these people sound like this all the time, then no wonder they are constantly rejected, can’t find jobs, and feel like outcasts in life. After all, who wants to deal with them?

    • ThothMRM

      The only person who needs to shut up is you, you racist sexist piece of trash.

    • airmanjoe

      Calling out bigots isn’t “trying to be the center of everything”, nor does it make one a racist or misogynist. Sounds like projection on your part.

      I don’t care if you’re white, you don’t my represent my thoughts or rights. If you have a problem with white people speaking, then lead by example and shut the fck up.

    • Nunya Beeswax

      “Fellow white people, sometimes y’all need to sit down and listen instead of trying to be the center of everything.”

      Oh honey, have you ever heard of irony? (Hint : it’s not the thing you use to press clothing)

    • Leon Miller

      Check your Jewish privilege.

    • Will Vazquez

      Nice job ,rebecca,,,

      • IanC

        He says, sarcastically (I hope!).

    • IanC

      Fellow feminazi – Assuming you’re not a troll, let me just say you really are out of line and utterly deluded.

      Saying that we white men should try NOT to be the centre of everything just made me choke on my drink! WHAT?! Dear girl, I think you need a privilege check, first of all; and certainly you need to sit down and reflect: Misandrists like you are awash in the western world, who whine and hollar at every single little thing (and let’s face it, they are ‘little’ things, now that you more than have equality), for we men have had to put up with and endure your constant harping and whining for 6 DECADES. So welcome to retaliation time, kid! It’s about time you had some of your own medicine; except it’s never ever as constant and overbearing as it has been with your whining feminists. Your ‘safe spaces’ for when you’re ‘triggered’ (dear me you are such delicate flowers). The government programmes to help you women because you FAIL to compete with men, so you can ONLY compete when you’re given help – either money or quotas. Funny that, isn’t it? When you say you’re just as capable, but you clearly aren’t.

      Your ‘daddy’ is the ‘state’. You rely on other men to help you, in every way. So come on, let’s be honest here and say that you’re so butt hurt and deeply insecure WHENEVER men put their head above the parapet, that when we do, to call you out on your BS, you throw a tantrum, and out goes the rattle from your pram.

      Your misandry knows no bounds, so take a leaf out of your own petty book and STFU yourself, you pathetic girl you. Are you really SO put out by men FINALLY starting to question the state of play for us? What about the article, and this nasty piece of work, who’s sick, very sick in the head? What about addressing the injustice here instead of just stamping your feet like a petulant child? DO you SUPPORT her actions, or do you not? Come on, let’s hear your opinion on WHY we men are so pissed off with this low life (and careful you don’t dig yourself a hole!).

      I DOUBT I’ll even have an answer from you, as you cannot answer without sowing you up for who you are. No, I;ll just get a ‘response’, but it won’t be a proper ‘answer’, I bet.

      I can’t wait for this……………………..

  • Coach Mass

    I have been, many,many times sexually objectified by white women, who wanted an “exotic” experience. This seldom gets discussed from that point of view,I think,obvious reasons.

  • Jimmy Chan

    Why do you hate yourself so much? Don’t you realize that you can never be white, if even if you marry one?

    • cfishy

      You just answered your own question?

    • airmanjoe

      You’re not one of those people that hates it when other members of their race date inter-racially, are you? Not accusing, just asking. I don’t get the idea that she hates herself because of her race.

  • Kenny Jeffris

    While i can see your point, why do you have to generalize all of us? You are doing the exact thing you are criticizing in your article by applying it to every white guy in your last paragraph. But also, why do all the comments have to be so mean, free speech is a thing everyone, but damn.

  • thatgguy

    It’s very amusing to see all of these commentators frustrated that minorities are finally speaking their mind versus being held to the way they are “supposed” to address their issues. Institutional racism is coming down and being replaced. Enjoy shoving your thoughts on how minorities are supposed to think for a little while longer :) The future is almost here.

    • lspanker

      It’s very amusing to see all of these commentators frustrated that minorities are finally speaking their mind

      Minorities can speak their mind all they want, however, they aren’t going to get passes for being racist crybabies just because they are non-white. You really think white folks spend all out time trying to keep brown and black people down? You’re just showing how silly and out of touch with reality you really are.

      • thatgguy

        Actually yes, they do spend all their time doing just that. Please reference the Regan presidency, the major of Sociology, and the history of western civilization
        .

        • lspanker

          If you believe that, you are truly an ignorant fool.

        • airmanjoe

          Define “they”. A relatively tiny percentage is the answer. I’m not impressed.

        • Leon Miller

          “major of Sociology” lol. You’re right, that’s one of the biggest problems right there. Though I suppose it could have been cultural anthropology, or “gender studies,” or any other discipline primarily concerned with pushing the poz.

    • Dan Spitzer

      Hey, if the future is truly almost here then you, Maggie, and ilk like Black Lives Matter can stop making and heaving your mud pies…

    • cfishy

      I didn’t know frustrated minorities are allowed to rape white people and brag about it? I’m Asian, so I totally missed out.

    • “It’s very amusing to see all of these commentators frustrated that minorities are finally speaking their mind versus being held to the way they are “supposed” to address their issues. ”
      It’s amusing to see you erase all the Asian commenters here who are calling her out the same as everyone else is.

    • lspanker

      Institutional racism is coming down and being replaced.

      So one type of racism is being replaced by another type of racism. Is that really moving civilization forward?

    • Malcom Warner

      I wasn’t aware that “frustrated minorities” had free reign to rape unwilling and intoxicated men like Maggie just admitted to in this article.

      • IanC

        Too right!

  • Calalum

    Hey Maggie. Idk if you read the comments but I like this article a lot. I’ve actually had a similar but ‘reverse’ situation happen to me. I had an Asian guy I was hooking up with dump me bc he outwardly said he didn’t want a relationship with a white person. Funny to hear it from the other side… I feel like guys in general objectify women who they see as cultural ‘others’ and don’t treat them like they have feelings. Obvi w white guys it probably has a more racist bent to it… But just thought that was an interesting parallel.

  • Our eyes met.
    Our fingers met.
    Our bodies met.
    And then we got to know each other’s personalities.

  • MaggieIsAGalacticRetard

    I strongly suggest you consider the possibility that he took a hard pass after realizing what a train wreck, both intellectually and visually, you are.

  • July Laszakovits

    I am a white middle-class female recent college graduate. Over the past few years, I have been passed over by boys for women of all different backgrounds. I have been treated like crap and objectified by boys of all different races. I think the greater issue is how boys in this country are raised. While I don’t doubt that race may play a role in some situations (I’m white so I can never fully understand the struggle others go through), I think there’s a much larger over-arching issue rooted in our culture. In light of this, I find it unhelpful to the discussion to blame an entire race of men for an issue larger than themselves.

    • zaph

      Looked at your instagram. You don’t wear makeup, or really seem to care much about your outward appearance, which is putting you quite a bit behind other girls who do. Focus a bit on maintaining your appearance, and I’m pretty sure a cavalcade of dong will come your way. Maybe some of that dong might even be keeper material.

      • kingkwon

        This is a deeply unsettling comment.

        • zaph

          How so? Clearly, she’s having an issue attracting men, so I figured I’d offer some assistance on the issue. Since she’s using her full name (not something I’d personally recommend), she must be ok with someone Googling it to find instagram and seeing if there are any outward reasons that she’s being passed over.

          Anyway, I don’t plan on being malicious with it or e-stalking or whatever, but I honestly think her problem is more ‘her’ than it is ‘boys in this country being raised improperly’.

          • Leon Miller

            You’re wasting your time. To someone like “July,” it is self-evident that remaking all of society so that more men will be attracted to her as she is, would be a far more reasonable proposition than for her to take steps to make herself more attractive to men as they are.

      • Guy Tintintininbaum

        “A cavalcade of dong” hahahahaha

      • July Laszakovits

        Hi zaph, I appreciate your critical review of my instagram account and suggestions on how to get a “cavalcade of dong” (please note that this is sarcastic). However, I’m doing pretty well without makeup or care for my “outward appearance”. You’re working under the assumption that like Maggie I was crushed by these rejections. Rejection is not enjoyable, but it’s a part of putting yourself out there when looking for either hook ups or a relationship. The point I was trying to make is that race was likely not the issue in this case and that the same kind of rejection is faced by men and women of all races. Meaning, Maggie’s conclusion that all white boys aren’t worth “more than a faded fuck” are in error.

        • zaph

          Well, July, I think you’re absolutely right in that rejection is part of the game. However, while I agree with you that Maggie’s wrong, I think you were wrong as well to suggest that it’s men of all races that are the problem. While I probably pointed it out a bit sardonically (and I apologize), I personally believe that if someone is having a similar problem with many or all of their partners they date, then they’re attracting the wrong kind of person.

          Anyway, sorry for the criticism, and I hope you enjoy an armada of penises in your future, makeup or no.

          • Leon Miller

            Obviously, you were mistaken in your assumption that, because she complains to strangers on the internet about her multiple rejections by men, that she cares about these rejections…

    • “Over the past few years, I have been passed over by boys for women of all different backgrounds. I have been treated like crap and objectified by boys of all different races. I think the greater issue is how boys in this country are raised.”

      They objectify you by passing you up. In other words they friend zone you. You sound like a rapist waiting to happen like Maggie Lam.

      the problem with the way boys are raised in this country is that they are indoctrinated to put women’s feelings before their own. That’s the only reason someone would think an article like this, a cheap victimhood scam to cover up rape, would even be read through to the end.

      • July Laszakovits

        Hi Ginko, similar to zaph, I find it interesting that you assume I am disgruntled with being “passed up”. Did it hurt at the time? Sure. Does it bother me now that I was passed up? No, not in the slightest. Did my race have anything to do with why I was passed up? Absolutely not. I was not objectified by being passed up. I was objectified by how I was treated- like a piece of ass rather than a human. There’s a big difference there.

        I fully disagree with your assessment of how boys are raised in this country. I don’t know anyone who completely puts other people’s feelings before anyone else’s other than themselves. We’re designed to protect ourselves, which means no man is actually going to put his feelings before a woman’s. And I personally have never seen boys being taught to be mindful of other’s feelings. Instead we throw around phrases like “boys will be boys” to suggest that boys behavior is acceptable simply because of their sex. How many times are young girls told this when they feel violated by the boys in their classes? How in that situation are boys being taught to “put women’s feelings before their own”?

  • 1776

    Dude didn’t want to date you because you are asian and he white, its because you are easy.

  • californiagoldenbear

    Yes, judging an entire race of people by your personal experiences with a few members of that race is quite progressive of you.

    • lspanker

      And they call US racists… :O|

    • chrisredfield31

      uh not when AW fetishize said race, date and have sexual relations exclusively with them. I’m not saying what she did was right, or even that this article was right. I’m saying that the WMAF phenomenon was bound to lead to situations like this.

      • Dan Spitzer

        Oh bullshit. Most men in the white majority world are decent guys and do not reduce Asian women to stereotype…

        • chrisredfield31

          You would be surprised. It is disgusting how a lot of white men treat Asian women. These are the beta losers that white women rejected. A lot of them are social justice types.

        • WHITE GUY

          Asian women prefer white guys over asian guys. It is statistically proven.

  • lspanker

    Maggie, we’re sick of your racist rants. Do us all a favor – STFU and grow up.

    • 1776

      This was probably the most racist article I’ve read on the DC

  • Nunya Beeswax

    This situation has nothing to do with you being Asian, Maggie.

    • lspanker

      PC brainwashing has apparently been quite effective on the poor child.

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