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OFF THE BEAT: Learning to be a sex nerd

I am a nerd. About everything. I over-research anything I decide that I want to do. I exhaust the resources on the Internet and then move on to books if I still want to know more. When I started having sex, I started doing the same thing I always do: Read More…

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Giving it some thought

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In some ways, I am completely unqualified to write about being a virgin in college. I lost my virginity the summer before college to a boy I ended up dating for the next four years. I also love sex. But if someone hasn’t had sex, I just think that he Read More…

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No One Looking Over Your Shoulder

No longer having parents looming over your shoulder is both liberating and terrifying.  All of a sudden, you are responsible for everything that you do. You are also away from prying eyes. For perhaps the first time, your parents don’t know everything about your medical care.  Sexual health tends to Read More…

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Getting past the mechanics

Sex on Monday

The specific mechanics of oral sex really shouldn’t be pondered too long. Like most of sex, the longer it is examined with an unhormonal eye, the more horrifying the entire process gets. Like a word repeated until it seems more like noise than something with actual meaning, when looked at Read More…

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Sticking by your friends

Sex on Monday

Casual can be a tricky word to define in the context of relationships. It means not serious, that’s always clear, but what exactly “not serious” is less certain. Some people think of casual as “we are sleeping together and I can sleep with other people,” while others are more of Read More…

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Knowledge is protection

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I always hate researching STIs because it seems like half the information is rather slanted toward “if you ever have sex, you are going to get HIV and die!” Yes, STIs are a risk, but how much of one is really hard to pin down. So I turned to the Read More…

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Explore the next big thing

Sex on Monday

Twenty years ago, the rising rates of oral sex were marveled at by the researchers. Now, if you hit 29 and haven’t participated in some kind of oral sex, you would be as common as someone without a cell phone. Since oral, something previously thought of as dirty and subversive, Read More…

Tips for Writing Your Dating Profile

If you decide to go online and open up the dating buffet, creating an account is just step one. Creating a good profile is the difference between getting good matches and getting: “Why are you even talking to me?” Admittedly, writing can be hard, but a little time to craft Read More…

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All you can date buffet

Sex on Monday

Online dating is hands down the easiest way to meet other people who are single and interested. It is also the way of meeting people you are most likely to want lie to your friends about. While online dating may be easier, it doesn’t lend the most romantic answer to Read More…

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Moving beyond vanilla

Sex on Monday

Every time I go out on a date with someone, I want to skip past the awkward small talk getting-to-know-you phase, and just break out a survey. It would cover the basics of “What are you looking for right now: Casual sex? Commitment?” But it would also cover the things Read More…