There is no “normal” in sex. We’re conditioned to believe that sex is black and white and that there is a right and wrong way to act, talk and feel about it. But sex, much like life, is messy and is so much more enjoyable that way. This diversity in Read More…
There was a time in my fairly recent past when “Big Pimpin’” was the soundtrack to my life. It was a time of plenty during which I was getting numbers from every cute counter clerk I came across, going on consecutive dates with lots of attractive people and cramming in Read More…
Because I couldn’t afford to fly home the day before Thanksgiving this past week, I spent all of Wednesday in Berkeley. I only had one class that day, and the campus was marvelously empty. So at around 4:20 p.m., I called up my partner, and as two mischievous UC Berkeley Read More…
This confession is a first for me. The thought of being in a relationship scares the living shit out of me. The relationship I’m referring to is the exclusive, long-term, monogamous kind. The kind that people most commonly consider to be a romantic relationship. To me, being in a relationship Read More…
A recurring subject among my housemates is the racial categorization of sexual preferences. My housemate once complained to me that people call her “exotic” because she is a black woman and that they often want to get with her only because she has curves. My other housemate told me he feels Read More…
Here is one of the most important words in the English language: con·sent /kənˈsent/ Noun: Permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. Verb: Give permission for something to happen. Comprehend it and internalize what it means. Now internalize this: Sex cannot happen without consent. Sex without mutual Read More…
This column is not about “Fifty Shades of Grey” because, frankly, reading that book pissed me off. Reading about how undeserving a woman thinks she is of a prototypical alpha-male is not sexually arousing. “Fifty Shades” did not provide any of the provocative mind-fucks I was anticipating. This column is Read More…
I don’t normally write about politics. But the fact that my reproductive choices and future in general are being decided on by distant politicians who only care about me for economic and political gain makes me feel disempowered. Is cutting women’s health care and rights a serious platform for politicians? Read More…
Me: “Oh my goodness, you and your girlfriend are so cute.” Couple: “Wow, thanks.” Me: “Yeah, you really are an attractive couple. I would love to fuck with the two of you sometime.” This is an interaction I often have when I’m out and usually drunk. Since I’m not trying Read More…
Last Wednesday during “National Boyfriend Day,” taken people posted cute pictures of themselves and their boyfriends to express their appreciation for their beaus to the Internet world. Amongst all the “OMG I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND SO MUCH” posts, the one that stood out to me the most was, “It’s a Read More…
