Sex and depression are not mutually exclusive

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On our first date at a bar on Southside, before the fries even left the kitchen, we high-fived over learning about each other’s dead dads. It wasn’t a toast to their deaths but a quick signal that we knew each other’s grief. That’s the kind of plain understanding I look
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Physical disability and sex

Sex on Tuesday

No sooner do I feel dumb for asking, “What’s it like when you have sex?” than she answers, “I imagine just like everyone else.” What I meant in asking, “What’s it like?” was more along the lines of: “What steps do you take?” I met with my friend and fellow
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Embodying positivity

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While growing up, my aunt would visit my family’s house and excitedly greet my siblings and me. She subscribed to the standard “oh so good to see you” type of arrival, but with a twist. When it came to greeting my sister and me, she would select who between us
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Money is power

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Different financial statuses create a particular kind of power dynamic in a relationship. Almost inevitably, it means the one with more money has more power.
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Not queer enough

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I’m just another college girl doing the lesbian thing. In my sexual prime, I’m getting it while I can. I rotate among multiple partners like a watermill dipping into casual sex before my libido inevitably depletes the reservoir of youth and energy. I’m a quiet girl far from home for the first time, rebelling against the conservative town that bred me straight. I’m experimenting.
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Hack the meet cute

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Login to the Tinder bar and take a seat at the counter. Upload your prettiest face and prepare a few words for the ensuing lineup of women and men near you. Eventually, you find me, and there comes the infamous swipe to the right — swiping your right to the
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The attraction awards

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It’s my honor this evening to present the nominees for best leading woman in the American Heterosexual Race Preference Awards. White, you gave an unforgettable, centuries-lasting performance as the fairest of them all — an American classic and the industry standard in beauty and attraction. Asian, you delighted audiences across the
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Navigating the intersections of submission

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I’d gawked the hell out of her FetLife profile photos: There’s one of her on her knees, arms tied to a spreader bar, and another of her nude on all fours, wearing a plush pair of cat ears and lapping milk out of a bowl — all for the gaze of her Dominant husband.
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I’ll stop writing about sex on one condition

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Nothing soothes the shame of my secrets like finding a kindred pervert. “Does it make me kinda serial killer-y if I keep track of all the names of my sexual partners? Like trophies? Is that a thing?” Another 3 a.m. text message for the books. When I saw my best
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