Saying “hell yes”

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“I’m used to just fucking.” I had just told this person I was starting to date about how consent should work in kink, a discussion of all the things you want beforehand, and he wasn’t having it. “The hottest things happen when you just go for it.” Consent education has
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Am I infected?

My phone rang in class. It was my gynecologist calling me in the one time slot I told him not to. I hurried from the front of the giant lecture hall to the exit in the back to answer. He told me my pap test had come back abnormal and
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I’m pretty vanilla and that’s OK

“Can you only come when being beaten?” she asked. I receive questions like this often. When people hear that I’m the founder of Kink Club, they assume a number of things about my sex life. Some imagine me being tied down and fucked aggressively, but more often, people seem to
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A little kink with your milkshake

I liked being choked. I liked being told what to do. Turns out, those kinks make me come harder. In trying to find what to do about my newfound kinks, I was pointed toward a “munch” for newbies taking place at Wicked Grounds, a kink café in San Francisco. A
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A love-hate relationship

The pain inside me went up and down as the violins shrieked and the cellos wept. I tried to appreciate the beauty of the music, but all that kept going through my head was, “I hate this thing, I hate this thing, I hate this thing …” It had been
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Big pussy

This Friday, everyone will be wearing green for St. Patrick’s Day, but there is one sort of green that prevails in many relationships every day of the year. Jealousy, historically referred to as the green-eyed monster, is seen as both a terrible thing to have and an inevitability in relationships.
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Why not both?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve masturbated daily. First with my fingers, then with the stream from a removable shower head and finally with vibrators. For much of this time, I was touching myself to what I thought penetrative sex must feel like. I’d wanted to have it
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How I suck at poly

Sex on Tuesday

About a month ago, I was invited to speak on a panel about polyamory. For those unfamiliar, polyamory is the practice of maintaining multiple sexual and/or romantic partners at a time. When I excitedly told each of my partners about this invitation, they each responded with a variation of the
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This column got me laid

Sex on Tuesday

As UC Berkeley’s resident Edgar Allan Hoe, I have blessed this campus with enough dick debacles and anal autobiographies to last one whole glorious, gay semester. Writing this column has been quite a trip. Well, actually, multiple trips to be exact: to bedrooms, bathroom stalls and beyond. While I’m extremely
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Monoga-me?

Sex on Tuesday

Confession: I have never been in a committed relationship. I’ve also never held a boy’s hand in public or passionately made out under the twinkling twilight with someone I’ve had strong feelings for. In fact, I haven’t had strong feelings for another gay man in my life. Usually, I dupe
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