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Bedside manners

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There are unspoken rules about having sex with someone. Whether it’s a one-night stand or the second year of a relationship, they’re pretty much the same: Don’t be selfish in bed. Make your partner feel good. Respect their boundaries. These are all pretty self-explanatory. When it comes to orgasms, however,
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Nude aesthetics

Sex on Tuesday

The semester is almost drawing to a close. Finals loom in the distance, and so does the thought that I have a year left before I’m done with college. Rather than worrying about post-graduation plans, I’m freaking out over Berkeley memories I haven’t yet made. The one in my thoughts
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Asking for it

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A beautiful woman walks down Shattuck at night in a skintight red dress and black jacket. Her high heels click against the pavement when, out of nowhere, she is attacked by a rapist. Was she asking for it? A 16-year-old high school girl from Steubenville, Ohio, drinks at a party. She
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Paralysis by analysis

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Sleeping with someone for the first time is so terrifying. There’s this unspoken expectation that everything should go perfectly. I’ll take your shirt off and you’ll have a chiseled six pack, and we’ll come together while fireworks explode in the background. Thanks, Hollywood. The only image floating in my head
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Anal play for all

Sex on Tuesday

The first time a guy did some back-door probing during sex, I freaked. All I could think about was the potential of things getting very, very messy. When I voiced my concerns, what I got in return was a laugh and a casual “So?” I decided to be open-minded and
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The number dilemma

Sex on Tuesday

In every relationship I’ve had, the conversation at some point turns to talk of “the number.” As I’m sure you all know, this is the infamous number of sexual partners, a number not only used to determine your sexual prowess but also used to judge whether you’re a slutty vixen
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A hairy situation

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Thanks to my Persian and Greek genes, I have body hair that’s especially thick on my arms and legs. Kids in grade school used to call me “Gorilla.” I got teased so much that I started hair removal at a pretty young age. To this day, I wax my arms
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The price of porn culture

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America loves porn. Fact: every second, more than 28,000 Internet users are watching porn. That means that in the time it took you to read this sentence, a bunch of them probably came. Lovely. Now, I’m not here to shame porn. It can be incredibly sexy and liberating. The problem
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The heteronormative bias

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In the fall semester of my freshman year, one of my friends had to fill out a form to get out of his housing contract in the residence halls. This form said something akin to the following: Choose your gender. Below that were not two but three boxes. “Male,” “female”
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College sex: Berkeley edition

Sex on Tuesday

Because I couldn’t afford to fly home the day before Thanksgiving this past week, I spent all of Wednesday in Berkeley. I only had one class that day, and the campus was marvelously empty. So at around 4:20 p.m., I called up my partner, and as two mischievous UC Berkeley
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