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The number dilemma

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In every relationship I’ve had, the conversation at some point turns to talk of “the number.” As I’m sure you all know, this is the infamous number of sexual partners, a number not only used to determine your sexual prowess but also used to judge whether you’re a slutty vixen
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A hairy situation

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Thanks to my Persian and Greek genes, I have body hair that’s especially thick on my arms and legs. Kids in grade school used to call me “Gorilla.” I got teased so much that I started hair removal at a pretty young age. To this day, I wax my arms
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The price of porn culture

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America loves porn. Fact: every second, more than 28,000 Internet users are watching porn. That means that in the time it took you to read this sentence, a bunch of them probably came. Lovely. Now, I’m not here to shame porn. It can be incredibly sexy and liberating. The problem
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The heteronormative bias

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In the fall semester of my freshman year, one of my friends had to fill out a form to get out of his housing contract in the residence halls. This form said something akin to the following: Choose your gender. Below that were not two but three boxes. “Male,” “female”
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College sex: Berkeley edition

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Because I couldn’t afford to fly home the day before Thanksgiving this past week, I spent all of Wednesday in Berkeley. I only had one class that day, and the campus was marvelously empty. So at around 4:20 p.m., I called up my partner, and as two mischievous UC Berkeley
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Deconstructing relationships

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This confession is a first for me. The thought of being in a relationship scares the living shit out of me. The relationship I’m referring to is the exclusive, long-term, monogamous kind. The kind that people most commonly consider to be a romantic relationship. To me, being in a relationship
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The talk (that must be had)

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Here is one of the most important words in the English language: con·sent /kənˈsent/ Noun: Permission for something to happen or agreement to do something. Verb: Give permission for something to happen. Comprehend it and internalize what it means. Now internalize this: Sex cannot happen without consent. Sex without mutual
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The triple threat

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Me: “Oh my goodness, you and your girlfriend are so cute.” Couple: “Wow, thanks.” Me: “Yeah, you really are an attractive couple. I would love to fuck with the two of you sometime.” This is an interaction I often have when I’m out and usually drunk. Since I’m not trying
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Relationship tunnel vision

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Last Wednesday during “National Boyfriend Day,” taken people posted cute pictures of themselves and their boyfriends to express their appreciation for their beaus to the Internet world. Amongst all the “OMG I LOVE MY BOYFRIEND SO MUCH” posts, the one that stood out to me the most was, “It’s a
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Think sex-positive

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One of the best things that ever happened to me was learning how to be sex-positive, thanks to some of the wonderful people I have met at Berkeley. Sex-positive isn’t a term that most people are familiar with. But it signifies exactly what it says — acknowledging that sex can
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