This summer’s latest buzz-worthy movie, “Trainwreck,” is a comedic take on the realistic and oh-so-relatable struggle of what it’s like to be a total mess. The film, written and starred in by Amy Schumer, follows Amy, a character who leads a superficially satisfied and worry-free life of commitment-free sex and partying. As she navigates her life, alongside various friends and romantic interests (Bill Hader, John Cena and LeBron James), Amy learns that she isn’t quite as put together as she thought and that she might actually be, well, a train wreck. Although the movie is laugh-out-loud funny, some of its themes are much more serious, reminding us millennials of the dangers of carefree yet on-top-of-the-world personas. We at the Clog have compiled a list of ways we are train wrecks.
1. We pretend to have control.
Early in the film, we learn about Amy’s incessant one-night stands and partying. She says to the audience, “Don’t judge me. I’m good — I’m in total and complete control.” Although we fully support women taking charge of their sexuality, Amy is, sadly, not one of those women. As her personal life falls apart and her substance abuse becomes more apparent, we see that Amy’s not really in control. And sometimes, neither are we. Like Amy, we find ourselves justifying a mistake instead of learning from it and subsequently making it into a form of practice. This self-justification then leads to a downward spiral of bad decisions before we even realize it. So next time you screw up, own it and don’t do it again.
2. We hate being compared to our siblings or friends.
Inspired by Schumer’s sister in real life, Amy’s happily married, suburban sister couldn’t be more different from her. Amy constantly disapproves of her sister’s lifestyle and resents anyone who even hints that she should be more like her sister. We know how Amy feels: Being compared to other people sucks. We hate being compared to others because we don’t like to be reminded of the ways our decisions might have negatively affected our lives. What’s even more annoying is that a part of us, deep down, thinks it might be kind of true. Why else would it bother us so much?
3. We insist that we’re happy when we’re really not.
Amy, a writer at a magazine and set for a promotion to become an editor, seems like she’s more than content with her work. Below the surface, however, she can’t help but feel that most of the people she works with are fake and that the magazine itself is superficial. Like Amy, we like to think that we’re happy and that we’re leading a fulfilling life, even when we’re really not. Odds are that if you have to repeatedly convince others and yourself that you’re happy, something’s wrong. But pretending everything’s good is just another way to make ourselves less anxious when we don’t know how to change things.
4. We lie compulsively.
Aside from lying about her happiness, Amy also has a tendency to lie when it benefits her, and at times, it seems compulsive. When asked if she has any underrepresented minority friends and if she has pictures to prove it, Amy says yes, citing someone who happened to photobomb one of her pictures. She’s obviously too embarrassed to flat out say no, so she instead lies. Although this scenario is obviously a joke, it reminds us of how we, too, lie compulsively to make our lives simpler or seem more impressive.
5. We’re afraid of commitment.
Amy brushes off her one-night stands as meaningless because she knows she’s only after the physical satisfaction. But even in her more meaningful relationships, she struggles to commit. When Amy starts to realize that she’s falling for a guy, she tries to end it before anything really starts. We, too, fear commitment because of the possibility of the pain of heartbreak. The thought of investing yourself in anything or anyone only to watch it all fail is too traumatic, so we’d rather not invest at all. You can’t fail if you don’t try. But in reality, we have to learn to try — not just because your loved ones deserve it but because you deserve it, too.
If you’re starting to feel like you’re a total train wreck, don’t beat yourself up about it. The truth is, at times, we can all be a bit of a mess. Acknowledging what’s wrong with ourselves is the first step, and doing something about it is the next. Get up and get it together, because we at the Clog believe in you! We recommend that you believe in yourself, too, and if you haven’t already, check out “Trainwreck” in a theater near you!
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