Escape to Sweden

Sex on Tuesday

My first day on birth control marked the first day of my yearlong celibacy. I didn’t seek out abstinence, or desire it. But my body had other plans.
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To be Asian and American

Off the Beat

When we celebrated and acknowledged Chinese traditions, however, it never felt like my culture. There has always been an intangible sense of displacement or distance from my birthplace.
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Anti-anticlimax

Love in conversation

That climactic release I’ve always looked for: This time, we may not be able to manufacture it. But I’m beginning to think that, just like the other kind of blue balls, the anticlimax we feel will dissipate.
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No, it’s not normal

Off the Beat

I didn’t know that my discomfort was valid, and I always viewed myself as the problem. I didn’t know that I got to choose who had a right to my body.
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Anger was never the answer

Off the Beat

I don’t know, when my Mom was my age, what kept her up at night, what her favorite dance moves were, what her pet peeves were, what her worldview was.
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Brown (and bisexual)

Off the Beat

Coming to terms with my Indian American identity was quickly followed by another recognition: The world isn’t as straight as I thought it was.
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