Dating the enemy

Off the Beat

A bad EDM remix was blaring over the speakers, the alcohol was nonexistent and still, my head was already pounding by the time he looked at me from across the dance floor. That’s where I met him, in a sweaty jumble of bodies. He was cute in a blonde-suburban-white-boy-next-door kind
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Deafening sound of discrimination

Off the Beat

From the first moment I witnessed someone laughing at my father for his deaf accent, I realized people could be incredibly cruel. And I quickly learned that life wasn’t fair. My father was born deaf and didn’t grow up in a deaf community, so he struggled to communicate with hearing
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Model Minority

Cal in Color

Seared into my memory is the first time I fought with my friends. We were in ninth-grade world history when my friend offhandedly joked, “Yeah, but Rona’s Asian and has a big house, so she wouldn’t get what we’re going through.” “Excuse me?” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.
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Until we meet again Grandpa

Off the Beat

Living in Berkeley gives me peace, as I can reflect on my grandfather’s life, although his passing was so recent. I walk the same paths he took to class, overwhelmed with pride as a student to be where my grandfather was.
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All you can eat buffet

Sex on Tuesday

For whatever reason, the concept that a man should be pleased orally, while a woman should not necessarily be similarly pleased has become ingrained into contemporary sexual practice. Not only is it unfair at face value, but it’s also unjust when thinking about it from a pleasure standpoint.
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Learning my ABCDs

Cal in Color

For most people, ABCD is the beginning of the English alphabet. But for American-Born, Confused Desis like me, it’s an acronym, an insult, a joke and an identity, all wrapped up in four letters. Calling me an ABCD invalidates my experience of being Desi, or a person of South Asian
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Training myself for the future

Off the Beat

It’s not that the train ride provided me with the answers to some of life’s biggest questions, but I do believe that it lessened the burden of those questions. Sitting on a train for days and being forced to become comfortable with just watching the movement of the world outside calmed me down.
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Teresa Chin poses for her mug in 2002.

Abstinence only: No sex for you!

Sex on Tuesday

This column was originally published in the Oct. 15, 2002 issue of The Daily Californian So we’ve already gone through vibrators, whipped cream, chocolate syrup, dildos and erotic fantasies. Been there, done that; what else do you have for me? Well, if you sexually adventurous readers are really up for
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