Planning ahead

Off the Beat

I hadn’t planned for these moments, but they were just as valuable as the things I’d accounted for in my planner — if not more so.
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Room to room to room

Off the Beat

I came across a room that’s become a great match for me: a bed that’s just the right size, a series of well-placed posters that populate my walls.
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Stories we tell

Off the Beat

I was supposed to follow him. But just as Harrison started to crawl through the gap, someone hollered. The grown-ups were after us.
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Acknowledging my family’s support

Muscle Memories

Now that I am older, I can more easily understand how helpless they must have felt in not being able to find a definitive cure. They offered their emotional support throughout my medical journey and gave me the ability to try a variety of treatment options.
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Beyond the binary: Bathrooms must be inclusive of transgender communities

No matter if I feel that I made the right evaluation of which bathroom I belong in at the end of the day, I will never know if I made the right choice. I feel frustrated when people say, “just use the bathroom that most aligns with your gender identity,” because there is no binary cisgender space I can safely occupy. It doesn’t matter to me if I am in the right bathroom because the strangers around me are the final judgment of my choice.
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A big goodbye

In My Size

In the future, I will continue writing in order to inspire myself and others. Writing about my curves is still hard at times because I have to expose the parts of my body that I have spent most of my life hating, but overall, I love it.
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God’s plan

Sex on Tuesday

I thought about how I was taught that our outcomes were predetermined by a higher power. I realized that God did not have a map of my life. Rather, God’s plan was to allow me to regain agency in my life.
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Recognizing my white privilege

The Half of It

As I unpack the implications of doing racial justice work as a white-passing womxn, I realize that recognizing my white privilege does not invalidate my identity as a Chinese womxn and a person of color.
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Introducing myself

Muscle Memories

The more time I continue to spend in Berkeley, the less I care about censoring my experience with MG. My intention is never to make someone uncomfortable when I bring up my physical and emotional struggles but instead, to exercise my identity in a way that is liberating.
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