What’s in a name?

Sex on Tuesday

To me, performing the stereotypical behaviors says “Hi, I’m bisexual,” and once someone sees that, I care more about demonstrating my other traits, which matter to me far more than my sexuality does.
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Sex and Sensibility

Sex on Tuesday

Subconsciously, I think about things to avoid feeling things. In the heat of the moment, however, sex makes it hard to think. And even if thoughtless sex can sometimes be risky, I love escaping my head.
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The more, the merrier?

Sex on Tuesday

Social prescriptions limit the acceptable forms of love, and among the most difficult norms to defy is monogamy. If your instincts carry you outside social convention — as mine have — you must work all the more diligently for love to succeed.
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The nuts and bolts

Sex on Tuesday

Above all, whether you already broadcast your sex life or keep it tightly under wraps, know that openness and vulnerability can be extraordinary resources.
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The making of love

Sex on Tuesday

I wear the loves I’ve accrued in every facet of my personality, letting the romances of my life sculpt who I am and what I want. And I’d argue that love creates all the ingredients required for exemplary sex.
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To choose or not to choose

Sex on Tuesday

The notion of preferring one gender strikes me as a very heterosexual way of thinking, but preferences aren’t so crazy, even if you really like all your options. And I often used to wonder: Do I have a preference? And if so, why?
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The worst of times

Sex on Tuesday

A stretch without sex can be like Charles Dickens’ famous beginning to “A Tale of Two Cities”: It can be both the best of times and the worst of times.
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