Patient and kind

Cal in Color

I’ve realized that, as a writer, I can’t completely bridge this gap between you and me, no matter how much I may try or how similar we are. I can only represent myself: weaknesses, strengths and all.
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Oh, to be a woman!

Cal in Color

This is the American media’s concept of a perfect woman. In some ways, even today, it gives me hope. More than that though, it frustrates me.
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Two labels, two meanings

Cal in Color

Our culture’s synonymous usage of the ‘Asian American’ and ‘model minority’ labels does not just pose a problem for Asian Americans, but for all Americans. It’s become a natural reflex in America to assign people to stereotypes — a habit that seems to be as old as time itself.
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Beauty standards don’t define me

Cal in Color

The label of “beauty” has a presence that I’ve never really understood how to deal with, especially because it tangles with both my Asian heritage and my American upbringing. Both of these cultures have made a permanent mark on me with their distinctive beauty standards.
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See no sex, hear no sex

Cal in Color

I quickly came to learn that the “s-word” was something to tip-toe around at home, something we acted like didn’t exist, that was fully off-limits.
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