To choose or not to choose

Sex on Tuesday

The notion of preferring one gender strikes me as a very heterosexual way of thinking, but preferences aren’t so crazy, even if you really like all your options. And I often used to wonder: Do I have a preference? And if so, why?
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Making space for aces at Pride

For aces of all stripes, LGBTQ+ communities are often the first communities we seek out when we first start questioning our a/sexuality and realize that mainstream heterosexual spaces may not have a place for us
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ICYMI: San Francisco Pride Parade

This year’s San Francisco Pride was a weekend to remember. The event expressed levels of love, empowerment and, well, pride, shared and celebrated by the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community and its allies. The theme of this year’s Pride Parade was “Equality Without Exception.” With the Supreme Court’s Friday decision to declare same-sex
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The bisexuality spectrum

Sex on Tuesday

My first impression of bisexuality as a kid was my older cousin vehemently expressing her irritability regarding this group: “They should just make up their minds,” she said in that authoritative way slightly older kids use with slightly younger kids. We were runts, then, but implicit in her statement was
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The best of both worlds?

Sex on Tuesday

Each time I tell someone I’m “bi,” there’s an inherent fear of being invalidated and then not being able to substantiate myself. When I am drawn to someone’s looks or personality, I don’t see a man or a woman. I just see an attractive person. People ask me all the time if deep down I have more of a preference for one or the other, and honestly, I don’t. When it comes to loving somebody, gender is nothing but a social and physical constraint.
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The (second) first time

Sex on Tuesday

I was nervous, drunk and extremely self-conscious. For a minute we just stared at each other, and I couldn’t believe adorable skater girl was actually in my room. And then we collided and started making out and shoving and stripping. She knew exactly what to do and exactly what I wanted. 
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