consent

Good consent requires prioritizing the feelings of our partners and ourselves, and having open dialogue when people express that they felt uncomfortable, disrespected or violated.

When I pretend not to hear the objectification forced my way, I sacrifice the autonomy of my movement and surrender my body to those who wish to control it.

Sex is complicated, especially when it’s wrapped up in wounding experiences, and there’s not exactly a linear route to healing.

Do I deserve to call this violence? Was I harmed? Am I entitled to the language of hurt if I let the hurt happen to me? What does “let” mean?

“If we’re both here and we both like each other, why can’t we figure out what we could be?”

I didn’t know that my discomfort was valid, and I always viewed myself as the problem. I didn’t know that I got to choose who had a right to my body.

Everywhere I looked, sex was there looking right back at me — for better or for worse.

Let’s cut to the chase — you’re reading this because your sex life is yawning and you’ve taken notes on the steamy scenes from “Fifty Shades of Grey” more times than you’d like to admit.

Brandishing a steak knife against her neck, he told her his intent to slit her throat open. He pulled out a blindfold and tied it tightly around her head.