Wanting to be wanted

Sex on Tuesday

Do I deserve to call this violence? Was I harmed? Am I entitled to the language of hurt if I let the hurt happen to me? What does “let” mean?
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No, it’s not normal

Off the Beat

I didn’t know that my discomfort was valid, and I always viewed myself as the problem. I didn’t know that I got to choose who had a right to my body.
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10 in 10

Sex on Tuesday

Content warning: sexual violence I was 7 when my dad hit me for the first time, and I learned it’s always best to shut the fuck up. I was in my second year at UC Berkeley, and I had spent a year away from my restrictive family, away from their
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Sleeping with knives

Sex on Tuesday

Brandishing a steak knife against her neck, he told her his intent to slit her throat open. He pulled out a blindfold and tied it tightly around her head.
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Would you rather: sex or love?

2 cents on 2 sides

When I tell friends the tale of my summer romance, it seemed torn out of a Nicholas Sparks novel: In the beautiful city of Cambridge, a liberal California girl falls for a Southern, conservative, Ivy League boy who folds her clothes before they fall asleep together in a cuddling position
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Back to his place

(In)secure

Friday night found me, as it often does, at a fraternity house. The room smelled like sweat and cheap alcohol, and the floors were sticky with Keystone Light. Across the room from a table littered with empty Solo cups, the two of us swayed our hips next to each other
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Reclaiming my voice

Breathe in. Open your mouth. Exhale. Exert your vocal chords. Silence. It’s all too familiar a feeling to lose your voice. You cheered too much at the concert or game last night. You have a sore throat. Maybe you just drank or smoked too much. Losing your voice doesn’t always
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