Dear Mom and Dad, this one’s for you

Amid the excitement as the school year of 2015-16 is finally coming to an end, let’s not forget that Mother’s Day will be the kickstart to our beloved finals week. Not long after that is Father’s Day. Whose smart idea was it to put them so close to each other?
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Heart and soul

Off the Beat

This summer, I watched my dad become irritable and cantankerous, snapping at my mom and me over small issues as he quickly ran out of energy. There were days when he yelled at me over the phone and I worried that he might never return to normal, and the frequent
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Stop whining, start fixing

Two steps forward

Of course, there are problems big enough that “whining” is necessary. “No whining unless you’re bleeding” is not a literal instruction — If you’re seriously injured you should get help; the same is true for emotional pain and major life obstacles. The phrase has a second, implied meaning, which is that if you are in fact bleeding, asking for help doesn’t count as whining. Unfortunately, some people don’t see that, refusing to “whine” even when their problems are far larger than can be solved individually. Refusing to seek assistance — as in the case of addiction or depression — can be far more destructive than seeking it too much. A balance must be struck: If the problem is too big to solve alone, get someone to help you; if it’s a petty annoyance, don’t bring it up.
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Off the beat: The little thing about his color

It’s India, in summer 2010. My family and I get a respite from the intense heat and walk into a sari shop, where my mom wants to finish her shopping for the day. We sit down, the shopkeeper brings us various sodas and water. My mother, my brother and I
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