Emotional stages leading up to the end of the semester

As the end of the semester rolls around, your emotions may be all over the place. There are so many things to consider, such as next year’s living arrangements, summer plans and above all, finals. Some days during the next month will be good, others will be bad. But generally, you’ll
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Stop whining, start fixing

Two steps forward

Of course, there are problems big enough that “whining” is necessary. “No whining unless you’re bleeding” is not a literal instruction — If you’re seriously injured you should get help; the same is true for emotional pain and major life obstacles. The phrase has a second, implied meaning, which is that if you are in fact bleeding, asking for help doesn’t count as whining. Unfortunately, some people don’t see that, refusing to “whine” even when their problems are far larger than can be solved individually. Refusing to seek assistance — as in the case of addiction or depression — can be far more destructive than seeking it too much. A balance must be struck: If the problem is too big to solve alone, get someone to help you; if it’s a petty annoyance, don’t bring it up.
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