Sex on Tuesday

My ambition is to write a sex column beyond myself and beyond satisfying people’s voyeuristic tendencies that are in constant search for the most salacious gossip.

We scoured more than 100 years of digital archives to highlight notable events from campus and Daily Cal history. From the very first game at Memorial Stadium to the Milo Yiannopoulos protests, we compiled headlines from nearly every decade since the Daily Cal was founded in 1871. So sit back, relax and take a scroll through history.

When a woman wants to have casual sex, do we need a term for it? Are phrases like “hoe phase” or “hot girl summer” attempts to justify our sex lives?

More than 20 years after the sex column’s launch, news media have long been on the internet, but now classes have been converted to a digital format as well.

For this week, I’ve crafted a schedule that celebrates the diversity of affection, taking inspiration from the ancient Greeks’ seven forms of love.

I still hear that nasty homophobic inner voice from time to time, but I can ignore it much better now. I can make the first move confidently and it’s not as scary as I once thought — especially because I know someone’s probably going to end up coming that night, as long as I actually start the conversation.

I used to hate how women sounded in porn — breathy, overly enthusiastic, shrill, annoying. But I’ve realized that my actual issue with their eager exclamations was that they seemed forced and fake.

It wasn’t until I started journaling and addressing the root of my pain that I realized how my trauma had impacted my sex life. Being a survivor of violence has meant unlearning my dangerous coping mechanisms and unpacking my unhealthy relationship to sex.

Since then, I’ve been learning and relearning how to fully embrace my sexuality. I thought that the ending of my relationship would be the last time my body and sexuality were directly policed — but I was wrong. I am still constantly being regulated and policed by society’s toxic expectations of what it means to be a bisexual woman of color.