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Have a hot girl summer

Sex on Tuesday

When a woman wants to have casual sex, do we need a term for it? Are phrases like “hoe phase” or “hot girl summer” attempts to justify our sex lives?
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Sexually active

Sex on Tuesday

I still hear that nasty homophobic inner voice from time to time, but I can ignore it much better now. I can make the first move confidently and it’s not as scary as I once thought — especially because I know someone’s probably going to end up coming that night, as long as I actually start the conversation.
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Out, loud and vocal

Sex on Tuesday

I used to hate how women sounded in porn — breathy, overly enthusiastic, shrill, annoying. But I’ve realized that my actual issue with their eager exclamations was that they seemed forced and fake.
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Recognizing sex as a coping mechanism

Sex on Tuesday

It wasn’t until I started journaling and addressing the root of my pain that I realized how my trauma had impacted my sex life. Being a survivor of violence has meant unlearning my dangerous coping mechanisms and unpacking my unhealthy relationship to sex.
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Tell him, boy, bi

Sex on Tuesday

Since then, I’ve been learning and relearning how to fully embrace my sexuality. I thought that the ending of my relationship would be the last time my body and sexuality were directly policed — but I was wrong. I am still constantly being regulated and policed by society’s toxic expectations of what it means to be a bisexual woman of color.
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Dick flicks for chicks

Sex on Tuesday

This column was originally published in the Aug. 31, 2010 issue of The Daily Californian. It’s either a great misconception that women don’t watch and enjoy porn, or I just happen to know the only girls in existence who do. I’m not saying we watch it all the time to
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