It doesn’t get better (and then, it does)

Bear in Mind

I have received a plentitude of terrible advice in my time as a Chronically Mentally Ill Person. One of my favorite (not at all appreciated) pieces of advice (that is not at all advice) is “It gets better!”
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The thing that almost worked

Bear in Mind

The idea of zapping my brain felt like a last-ditch effort, as though my depression had become an unsolvable problem that required an extreme solution.
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God’s plan

Sex on Tuesday

I thought about how I was taught that our outcomes were predetermined by a higher power. I realized that God did not have a map of my life. Rather, God’s plan was to allow me to regain agency in my life.
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Recognizing sex as a coping mechanism

Sex on Tuesday

It wasn’t until I started journaling and addressing the root of my pain that I realized how my trauma had impacted my sex life. Being a survivor of violence has meant unlearning my dangerous coping mechanisms and unpacking my unhealthy relationship to sex.
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Finding humanity in music

Music is the potter of my soul. Music shapes how I walk to class, write a column, sing a song, study for a test, grapple with mental health and navigate the challenges we all have to face in this world.
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